Someone on the board here, I can't recall who off the top of my head, said that if you see footage of someone dying, you should feel 'guilt'.  He got pretty slippery when I asked why, and said I didn't have a conscience.  Mkay.
The widow, btw, is from where I live (Eugene, OR).  I'm both saddened for her loss and joyful that she found someone who brought her happiness.  Grief is like a shadow, the bigger your happiness in life, the longer the shadow in death.