The key here is that the AH community needs to teach & guide those who are always arriving. Unless we teach them the right way how are they ever going to learn?
Sure a full blown furball with numbers of cons on both sides is an anthing goes kind of affair.
But if you feel like your fighting your own guys for a kill maybe your doing it wrong. If you tackle with an enemy and fight him from 10k down to the deck, and a friendly just blew by you and stole the kill, explain that to him.
Explain why it was wrong and what he should have done. Don't lose your cool, don't go off on him. Just calmly suggest that next time please ASK first.
Be polite, and don't piss him off. Chances are he he either didn't know better or thought you were in trouble.
Part of the problem is the increased numbers online, part that we constantly lose a stream of good solid classy guys and replace them with 10 - 20 new pilots who are just eager to kill something.
Part of it is that good manners start with us. You see 2 greens fighting an enemy, don't dive into that. 2 on a con is more than enough in most situations.
If you run across a 1 vs 1 fight, stay clear. If it looks like your teammate is losing you might ask him if he'd like a hand. Besides, if you stay out, stay high, and he does lose, then that con is all yours. Your sitting high in the drivers seat.
Stop being greedy for kills, you see 3 easy bombers inbound for the base, don't fight to see who can get there first. Coordinate, so you both go home with a kill.
Keep a sort of running tally in your head of
Good guys who check 6, cover friends, help out. stay close but don't steal their kills. Be helpful, polite, and friendly. Don't send multiple check 6's for a single bad guy. But if it looks like they didn't see someone, let them know.
Who knows you may eventually get a squad invite from them.
Stay clear of Horde flyer's, they always run in a pack. They wouldn't know what to do with a 1 on 1 fight if they saw one.
Remember bad guys, kill stealer's, guys who dive right through you chasing someone, causing you to killshooter yourself. Guys who will unload on a plane falling with 1 wing left, or tailless, or burning they are that desperate for a kill.
You do me wrong once fine, anyone can make a mistake.
You make a habit of doing me wrong, and I'll make a habit of not sending check 6's. Not clearing your 6, and leaving you alone to fight that horde of reds.
Its all up to us gentlemen, by word and example, we show and teach whats allowed & whats not.