Author Topic: I'm going to have some AWESOME inlaws!!! (Read 2037 times)

Serenity · « **Reply #30 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:17:35 PM »

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Originally posted by Chairboy
Yep, nothing creepy about a bunch of 30-60 year old crotchety old guys looking at pictures of your 15 year old girlfriend.

lol. Nice...

Maverick · « **Reply #31 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:20:14 PM »

You are being foolish in the extreme of you are planning to make one of the largest commitments of your entire life at the age of 15. You have no idea of what the world is really like at that age. Frankly most 25 year olds are having a hard time seeing the world past their hormones with more than double the life experience you have had.

Before you take on responsibility for others you should have learned to take responsibility for yourself. That means living on your own, by your own means and getting comfortable with yourself. You've hardly even been introduced to yourself yet. Yes that sounds a bit strange at first blush, but your body hasn't yet even come to terms with it's growth and chemistry yet. You have no idea how it's going to settle down and you are contemplating having another person in your life, every day of your life?

You have a ton of growing yet to do and much to experience that will shape your life. Get that accomplished before you decide to limit all of your social and other relationships based on one primary relationship.

Serenity · « **Reply #32 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:22:58 PM »

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Originally posted by Maverick
You are being foolish in the extreme of you are planning to make one of the largest commitments of your entire life at the age of 15. You have no idea of what the world is really like at that age. Frankly most 25 year olds are having a hard time seeing the world past their hormones with more than double the life experience you have had.

Before you take on responsibility for others you should have learned to take responsibility for yourself. That means living on your own, by your own means and getting comfortable with yourself. You've hardly even been introduced to yourself yet. Yes that sounds a bit strange at first blush, but your body hasn't yet even come to terms with it's growth and chemistry yet. You have no idea how it's going to settle down and you are contemplating having another person in your life, every day of your life?

You have a ton of growing yet to do and much to experience that will shape your life. Get that accomplished before you decide to limit all of your social and other relationships based on one primary relationship.

Like I said, them being my future inlaws, was flame-baiting. It intruiges me to hear all of the negative oppinions on the subject.

Mark Luper · « **Reply #33 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:30:15 PM »

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Originally posted by Serenity
Like I said, them being my future inlaws, was flame-baiting. It intruiges me to hear all of the negative oppinions on the subject.

I have been enamored of the opposite sex since I was 10 years old. I have had them on my mind for as long as I can remember.

She's a lovely young lady Serenity and I would imagine a great companion and a lot of fun to be around. Make the most of life while you can. Having someone to do that with you makes it a lot more fun. Real friendships are hard to come by, hang on to this one as long as you can.

Word.

Mark

Chairboy · « **Reply #34 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:33:27 PM »

Getting married doesn't magically fix or cement anything, btw. Shack up for a few years, if you're still interested after that, then get married. Folks who shack up like that before marriage are less likely to get a divorce in the long run.

Maverick · « **Reply #35 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:33:35 PM »

If you are looking at everything being a "negative" here, other than the back slapping and hooting, then you aren't reading them as intended.

AWMac · « **Reply #36 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:45:25 PM »

I'll shows you all whens I finish in sum yers from dat carny jobs I bean plyin fer and hav heaps o monies.

Looks me up sum dey whens I hab mys own doublewid traller, my owns dawgs n truk n muy kidds.

I'ms 15 n's I noes whuts Liifs bout so ya'll stop messin wit me.

Meatwad · « **Reply #37 on:** August 28, 2007, 09:51:56 PM »

I hate to tell you, but getting engaged at 15 is not a smart thing to do.

You both are still young. Go out and have fun out in the world with other people. Do the things that kids like to do at that age.

Five years from now if you both got married when you two were 16 (however local laws there work), you will be very lucky if the marriage is still intact. If not, you will look back on it and regret giving up your youth. Your youth now and the fun times you have with your friends at this age only come once. Dont let them pass by, take every advantage to create fun memories of now before you get too old and regret not doing them.

I threw away my youth by getting married too early. And yes, I regret it by missing out on all the fun things others my age were doing while I gave up college to work full time to support us. I will never make that same mistake again.

I am speaking from personal experience on this.

Serenity · « **Reply #38 on:** August 28, 2007, 10:54:35 PM »

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Originally posted by Maverick
If you are looking at everything being a "negative" here, other than the back slapping and hooting, then you aren't reading them as intended.

I mean the lovely stories people have a tendency to break into here about how marriage is such a horrible thing.

Chairboy · « **Reply #39 on:** August 28, 2007, 10:59:19 PM »

No, marriage can be great. The wrong marriage is horrible. That's why I suggest shacking up first, you find out if you're right for each other.

Serenity · « **Reply #40 on:** August 28, 2007, 11:02:43 PM »

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Originally posted by Chairboy
No, marriage can be great. The wrong marriage is horrible. That's why I suggest shacking up first, you find out if you're right for each other.

Yeah. A lot of you guys assume ive made up my mind to marry her. My parents got divorced. I KNOW how nasty it can get. I HAVE made up my mind, just not the way you folks think. Ive decided to... well, think more about it before deciding! And thats a decision I made a while ago.

Xargos · « **Reply #41 on:** August 28, 2007, 11:11:45 PM »

Make sure you get a dowry if the girls family wants to pawn her off so fast.

Serenity · « **Reply #42 on:** August 28, 2007, 11:13:00 PM »

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Originally posted by Xargos
Make sure you get a dowry if the girls family wants to pawn her off so fast.

lol. Trust me, theyre not pawning her off. They KNOW if they wanted to get rid of her theyd have no problem. It was a joke, and I know if I ever tried something like that, they WOULD kill me.

cav58d · « **Reply #43 on:** August 28, 2007, 11:15:18 PM »

Serenity...What you say about being 15 and basically being engaged is just laughable. No disrespect, and no one is poking fun at you, it's just very very comical to everyone else. You cant drive a car. You cant buy a ticket for a rated R movie. You cant join the military, and your body hasnt even finished going through its adolescent growing stages, and you are thinking of marriage?

I know it's a really happy though to you right now, but i'm nervous for you that it will go to both of your heads, and you will be trapped into thinking, I HAVE TO GET MARRIED.

Listen, there is absolutely nothing wrong with marriage. It's the most beautiful thing in the world IMO (most of the time). But man...You have never even been with a WOMAN before. Your girlfriend is just that. A YOUNG GIRL.

I know this is really fun for you right now, but I really hope you don't both end up convincing eachother you have to get married when you turn 18. You are barely teenagers. Your not even close to being adults...I don't care how mature you are, 15 is 15. I'm not saying marriage is a mistake what so ever, but dont make the mistake of manifesting up in your mind that you two HAVE to make this committment, when you have never known anyone else.

By the way...Every girl I have dated at one point has been the love of my life at some point. (well...uhh....some...others were just for fun =)..)

Anways...After I broke up with one I was really into, I would meet another a couple months later who was 10x's better. Then i'd break up with her, and a couple months later meet another who was 20 x's better.....

Do you get my point?

I dont believe in "TRUE LOVE". Right now I am in the most fantastic relationship in my life, and I have never been more happy. Really...Its really hard to describe. Would I be absolutely devestated if we broke up? Sure...Prolly for a long time....But at no point would I ever say, ohh no, I lost it all, and will never have it again....

Odds are, with the 3 billion or so other women on the planet, i'm pretty sure I could find someone just as good, if not even better.

dont limit yourself until you've played in other bushes.....Some will be filled with thorns....Others with candy......But most are just a lot of fun....

15.....maybe bushes is too early lmfao

Serenity · « **Reply #44 on:** August 28, 2007, 11:17:30 PM »

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Originally posted by cav58d
Serenity...What you say about being 15 and basically being engaged is just laughable. No disrespect, and no one is poking fun at you, it's just very very comical to everyone else. You cant drive a car. You cant buy a ticket for a rated R movie. You cant join the military, and your body hasnt even finished going through its adolescent growing stages, and you are thinking of marriage?

I know it's a really happy though to you right now, but i'm nervous for you that it will go to both of your heads, and you will be trapped into thinking, I HAVE TO GET MARRIED.

Listen, there is absolutely nothing wrong with marriage. It's the most beautiful thing in the world IMO (most of the time). But man...You have never even been with a WOMAN before. Your girlfriend is just that. A YOUNG GIRL.

I know this is really fun for you right now, but I really hope you don't both end up convincing eachother you have to get married when you turn 18. You are barely teenagers. Your not even close to being adults...I don't care how mature you are, 15 is 15. I'm not saying marriage is a mistake what so ever, but dont make the mistake of manifesting up in your mind that you two HAVE to make this committment, when you have never known anyone else.

By the way...Every girl I have dated at one point has been the love of my life at some point. (well...uhh....some...others were just for fun =)..)

Anways...After I broke up with one I was really into, I would meet another a couple months later who was 10x's better. Then i'd break up with her, and a couple months later meet another who was 20 x's better.....

Do you get my point?

I dont believe in "TRUE LOVE". Right now I am in the most fantastic relationship in my life, and I have never been more happy. Really...Its really hard to describe. Would I be absolutely devestated if we broke up? Sure...Prolly for a long time....But at no point would I ever say, ohh no, I lost it all, and will never have it again....

Odds are, with the 3 billion or so other women on the planet, i'm pretty sure I could find someone just as good, if not even better.

dont limit yourself until you've played in other bushes.....Some will be filled with thorns....Others with candy......But most are just a lot of fun....

15.....maybe bushes is too early lmfao

You appear to keep missing the part where I say "IM NOT ENGAGED". I put ONE word in to see what kind of reactions I would get.