As a recovering newb(LOL) here's my opinion...
1) Study everything and train hard outside the arenas. BBS BBS BBS
2) Do not try to troubleshoot your problems or lack of knowledge in the arenas.
3) If you run into a situation in the arenas, suck it up until you can do #1.
Basically it's ok to ask questions of senior pilots, I just do not think that when you are in a furball, your base is being overrun (you fill in a scenario) is the best time for Q & A. In the Arenas you are getting on the job training, not classroom training.
PS-I've never been Alt + F4 recommended, but it brings a chuckle anyway. Right of passage it is!