Everyone deals with death and loss of a loved one in different ways. What may seem as a waste of space to you, may be someones attempt at grieving for the loss and healing from their pain, in their way. They are not required to deal with death on your terms.
What you dont hear is this person not being able to control their crying, the persons anger, or seeing this person holding a robe or item of clothing, while crying into it. There is an old saying, "a problem shared is a problem solved".
There are apparently more friends and camaraderie on this board than you are aware of, and sharing thoughts or feelings of loss helps the person deal with that loss, among internet friends. If someone feels better for making a post about their loss, then I am happy they have found a temporary peace, because they will be dealing with the loss again very shortly, and will need another outlet. If he makes a post the following day telling how he feels and he feels better for it, then I am happy for this person again. Even if I dont know him. I encourage everyone to not hold things in, the anger, grief, frustration and fear need to come out. This is as good an outlet for that than anywhere else.
Im not trying to flame at all, but:
why sully my "outlet"
This seems to be a very greedy statement. This is everyones outlet and I agree with others, there are options with threads that you may not like.
I have a simple question for you. If your best friend came crying to you with the loss of his wife and wanted to talk to you, would you turn your back on him and tell him to go somewhere else?
I think there is a lot of restraint going on here among your board mates, and some restraint on your part with someone airing their grief would go a long way for you. And I will repeat I was not trying to flame at all.
to you.
Sorry for the rambling.
