Anyone that gets upset about ENY and is UNWILLING to switch sides has no reason to complain about it. You have an easy option if you need your 5 ENY ride to fly.
As for the Cap issue, i agree it can be frustrating, but it hasn't effected me that bad yet, I have come to deal with it.
The Bish being horded by the other 2 countries thing has happened to all countries at times. No one country is always picked on. You stated you lost 4 bases while trying to get one. How about upping your own horde to combat the horde that is capturing your bases, instead of your horde going to an empty base while there horde goes to an empty base. Kill 2 birds with one stone this way. You get to keep your base and get a good fight which you stated you wanted.
I understand your frustations, we have all been there. The key is to try and keep a positive attitude or just go do something else if it's getting to you. Nights I get to frustrated about one thing or another, I just go do other things. Life unfortunately isn't perfect for everyone all the time.