Excellent post Zaz ... probably the best you have ever posted.
I think that some of the angst that some bring to the BBS, in regards to "fighting", is that we (and I include myself) have a hard time understanding those who don't aspire to grab the "brass ring" ... or at least try to grab it.
"It's too hard (or their too lazy), so I just might as well run around straight at people and try to HO the crap out of them".
This, to me, is not a case of getting to a point of realization that they have maxed their own personal skills, but rather innate laziness.
I have always aspired to be able to beat the likes of Fester and Leviathn and "all be damned" in my personal pursuit. I use those two because that was the "who's who" of AH when I first started. I am sure there are many more, like you pointed out (Furball, Stang, etc), they could hand me my arse in seconds even tho I have many more hours into this game than them, but my original inspiration came from those 2.
There came a point, and it was quite awhile ago, that I realized that I just don't posses "what it takes" to get to that level ... and I am ok with that ... but on the other hand, every time I fly and run into guys that can beat me, I still work at what it will take to beat them. I am always looking for ways to improve.
I agree with all that you have said, but I would also like to feel that what you have portrayed is hopefully not condoning to give up on trying to always better yourself in this game.