Don't get me wrong, if I would have hit him then by all means send me straight back to the tower. The whole two planes hitting each other and having only one of them reaping the benefits is just plane silly. But on the other hand I don't think HTC wants people going Kamakazi style when their plane run out of ammo.
You misunderstood my post... some people say, in regards to the collision model, that 'if there's a collision both planes should take damage (regardless whether both FE's actually detected a collision). However if both planes took damage if one computer detected it no matter what, then you would have taken damage, even though you never hit him. This is why HTC's damage model is so effective.