No problems finding another woman? You have it made, my friend...
Kick her to the curb, get your diamond back, and give her the number of the busiest crack dealer you know...(I know you were joking about the crack).
You can rest assured that the failure rate of relationships started during an affair are doomed to fail after one or the other party becomes disinterested..(rinse repeat)
These are just the kind of people they are. If this scumbag she's screwing knew she was married, he deserves a busted jaw at best. If not, you need to make sure he's informed..
She deserves any and all legally horrible things you can do to her(taking custody of the children, making her pay child support, etc.).
Regardless of what others say, she deserves it and it will make you feel better if you're that type of person (I am
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My x-wife pulled the exact same crap on me but went much deeper. We worked for the same company on different floors. My son which I had with her (I refuse to call her his mother) was only 6 months old at the time. She was screwing her boss. 3 years of marriage, and one baby, down the tubes. I found out after the 2nd time they had an "encounter". (an x-girlfriend who I remained friends with told me). She "forgot" to pick up our son from daycare one day. I didn't let on that I knew anything for 2 months. The day she "forgot" to pick up our son was the nail in the coffin. When I got home, I called the bank, credit card companies, rental office, had locks changed. The next day, I even went as far as forcing her to sign the title for her car over to me since I paid for it in full(while ignoring the I'm so sorrys and I love yous). That afternoon, I put everything she owned near the dumpster at our apartment complex. I strolled into work, went up to her dept. and told her boss that she would have to move in with him, his wife, and 3 kids seeing that she couldn't live with me and our son anymore. He laughed in my face and tried to scare me with things like "I know such and such and can have you terminated with a phone call". I logically drew up a list of people who needed to know what was happening. I wrote a letter, made 100 copies, and handed them out at work. I also called her parents and anyone in her family I could think of. I just basically told as many people as possible, including her boss's family (which ended in divorce, losing his job and just about everything he owned). It was especially funny when company security found cocaine in his office(another employee tipped them off). Since my x-wife was involved with him, they demanded she take a drug test which turned out positive for cocaine. Both: fired.
Nothing made me feel better knowing this pariah of a woman and scumbag of a man were suffering horribly for their mis-deed. Her boss is now in jail for possession of a controlled substance with intent to distribute(police got involved after the company was informed of the cocaine in his office), and she lives with a mexican and they have another child. I occasionally run in to some mutual friends and they tell me this mexican beats her, treats her like dirt, and doesn't let her or their son leave the house. This makes me smile
My son has absolutely no contact with her whatsoever. My lovely wife of 5 years is his mother and always will be. This woman did this to the wrong guy (me). I was hurt for about all of 5 seconds. After that, I was furious, but focused. Nothing made me feel better than to see her suffer. When I would question myself on how much I making her suffer, I would answer with "She has no conscious and no guilt if she did this to me and our son". I have no regrets on how I handled it.
I don't know how much importance she puts on your child/children. Obviously not as much as she should. Parents should sacrifice all and everything for their
children. Even their own happiness if it comes down to it. Of course there are cases where the wife or husband has to get away due to violence/drug/other issue and being together
for the children just isn't an option. But, in your case, it doesn't sound like things were not fixable with a little communication. Communication is irrelevant now. The best way to be
in this situation is realistic. And the only thing I can remind you of over and over and over is to CYA (cover your arse). Document or record everything. Transfer any and all funds out of any
joint accounts and make your own personal account she cannot touch. Inform your bank or credit union why you are doing this. Don't let her get a hold of ANY of your money. Most likely, she will try to get some or all in order to start her new life (apartment, car, clothes, new image, etc.)
Cancel ANY and ALL credit cards. Keep all your bills as they will show you who spent what on where and when. I don't know how much money is involved between you two,
but this is always a MAJOR issue in divorce and the guy always gets stuck paying for everything after she's already taken half (or more). Dude, seriously, I cannot stress enough..
You may think you know this woman. You may think she'll never screw you so deeply to basically make you bankrupt (which is a death sentence in this economy). Kids and money
are the most important things here. If you can keep those two things safe, you have already won half the battle.