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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #60 on: December 05, 2008, 07:20:11 PM »
I hope you were kidding about buying her a diamond.... You lost me on the crack smoking part?

You mean it hadn't occurred to you yet that this whole thing is a marginally decent troll?
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #61 on: December 05, 2008, 07:40:01 PM »
The last person? Is suicide common where you live (this is a serious question, I'm not trying to make lite of the situation)?
I know several kids who have divorced parents, and they're just as normal as anyone else.
Here here. My mom and dad divorced when I was 11 and my mom figured I'd do horrible in school afterwards. I took it hard the first few weeks (thank god it was in the summer). But when school started I seemed to do good, never had below an 85 at the end of the marking periods.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #62 on: December 05, 2008, 07:53:54 PM »
Don't know, but from what I saw a lot of time WAS spent online............by both father and son.  Both happy, both quite content....one teaching the other.....both spending quality time together.  Maybe the other did feel a little left out...............is that a qualifier, or an excuse, for cheating...........I don't frigging think so!

Personnally, my wife would have given anything for me to spend as much quality time with my sons (while they were growing up) as I know you do with yours Neo.  Don't allow the betrayal to devert your attention from that squeaker that shows up on my wing every so often (btw....he flies better than you now  :D)

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #63 on: December 05, 2008, 08:41:20 PM »
No problems finding another woman?  You have it made, my friend... :rock
Kick her to the curb, get your diamond back, and give her the number of the busiest crack dealer you know...(I know you were joking about the crack).

You can rest assured that the failure rate of relationships started during an affair are doomed to fail after one or the other party becomes disinterested..(rinse repeat)
These are just the kind of people they are.  If this scumbag she's screwing knew she was married, he deserves a busted jaw at best.  If not, you need to make sure he's informed..
She deserves any and all legally horrible things you can do to her(taking custody of the children, making her pay child support, etc.).
Regardless of what others say, she deserves it and it will make you feel better if you're that type of person (I am :devil)

My x-wife pulled the exact same crap on me but went much deeper.  We worked for the same company on different floors.  My son which I had with her (I refuse to call her his mother) was only 6 months old at the time.  She was screwing her boss.  3 years of marriage, and one baby, down the tubes.  I found out after the 2nd time they had an "encounter". (an x-girlfriend who I remained friends with told me).  She "forgot" to pick up our son from daycare one day.  I didn't let on that I knew anything for 2 months.  The day she "forgot" to pick up our son was the nail in the coffin.  When I got home, I called the bank, credit card companies, rental office, had locks changed.  The next day, I even went as far as forcing her to sign the title for her car over to me since I paid for it in full(while ignoring the I'm so sorrys and I love yous).  That afternoon, I put everything she owned near the dumpster at our apartment complex.  I strolled into work, went up to her dept. and told her boss that she would have to move in with him, his wife, and 3 kids seeing that she couldn't live with me and our son anymore.  He laughed in my face and tried to scare me with things like "I know such and such and can have you terminated with a phone call".  I logically drew up a list of people who needed to know what was happening.  I wrote a letter, made 100 copies, and handed them out at work.  I also called her parents and anyone in her family I could think of.  I just basically told as many people as possible, including her boss's family (which ended in divorce, losing his job and just about everything he owned).  It was especially funny when company security found cocaine in his office(another employee tipped them off).  Since my x-wife was involved with him, they demanded she take a drug test which turned out positive for cocaine.  Both: fired. :devil  
Nothing made me feel better knowing this pariah of a woman and scumbag of a man were suffering horribly for their mis-deed.  Her boss is now in jail for possession of a controlled substance with intent to distribute(police got involved after the company was informed of the cocaine in his office), and she lives with a mexican and they have another child.  I occasionally run in to some mutual friends and they tell me this mexican beats her, treats her like dirt, and doesn't let her or their son leave the house.  This makes me smile :D  My son has absolutely no contact with her whatsoever.  My lovely wife of 5 years is his mother and always will be.  This woman did this to the wrong guy (me).  I was hurt for about all of 5 seconds.  After that, I was furious, but focused.  Nothing made me feel better than to see her suffer.  When I would question myself on how much I making her suffer, I would answer with "She has no conscious and no guilt if she did this to me and our son".  I have no regrets on how I handled it.  

I don't know how much importance she puts on your child/children.  Obviously not as much as she should.  Parents should sacrifice all and everything for their
children.  Even their own happiness if it comes down to it.  Of course there are cases where the wife or husband has to get away due to violence/drug/other issue and being together
for the children just isn't an option.  But, in your case, it doesn't sound like things were not fixable with a little communication.  Communication is irrelevant now.  The best way to be
in this situation is realistic.  And the only thing I can remind you of over and over and over is to CYA (cover your arse).  Document or record everything.  Transfer any and all funds out of any
joint accounts and make your own personal account she cannot touch.  Inform your bank or credit union why you are doing this.  Don't let her get a hold of ANY of your money.  Most likely, she will try to get some or all in order to start her new life (apartment, car, clothes, new image, etc.)  
Cancel ANY and ALL credit cards.  Keep all your bills as they will show you who spent what on where and when.  I don't know how much money is involved between you two,
but this is always a MAJOR issue in divorce and the guy always gets stuck paying for everything after she's already taken half (or more).  Dude, seriously, I cannot stress enough..
You may think you know this woman.  You may think she'll never screw you so deeply to basically make you bankrupt (which is a death sentence in this economy).  Kids and money
are the most important things here.  If you can keep those two things safe, you have already won half the battle.  
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #64 on: December 06, 2008, 01:20:31 AM »
Yees, my wife cheated on me, with my brother and sister. Was not very nice, i have bad mental picture.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #65 on: December 06, 2008, 09:02:22 AM »
Let me ask you guys something else.  She is a nurse aid and is sleeping around with a nurse,  I guess the hospital has a policy against that.  I'd really like to call and turn them in.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #66 on: December 06, 2008, 09:21:22 AM »
No problems finding another woman?  You have it made, my friend... :rock
Kick her to the curb, get your diamond back, and give her the number of the busiest crack dealer you know...(I know you were joking about the crack).

You can rest assured that the failure rate of relationships started during an affair are doomed to fail after one or the other party becomes disinterested..(rinse repeat)
These are just the kind of people they are.  If this scumbag she's screwing knew she was married, he deserves a busted jaw at best.  If not, you need to make sure he's informed..
She deserves any and all legally horrible things you can do to her(taking custody of the children, making her pay child support, etc.).
Regardless of what others say, she deserves it and it will make you feel better if you're that type of person (I am :devil)

My x-wife pulled the exact same crap on me but went much deeper.  We worked for the same company on different floors.  My son which I had with her (I refuse to call her his mother) was only 6 months old at the time.  She was screwing her boss.  3 years of marriage, and one baby, down the tubes.  I found out after the 2nd time they had an "encounter". (an x-girlfriend who I remained friends with told me).  She "forgot" to pick up our son from daycare one day.  I didn't let on that I knew anything for 2 months.  The day she "forgot" to pick up our son was the nail in the coffin.  When I got home, I called the bank, credit card companies, rental office, had locks changed.  The next day, I even went as far as forcing her to sign the title for her car over to me since I paid for it in full(while ignoring the I'm so sorrys and I love yous).  That afternoon, I put everything she owned near the dumpster at our apartment complex.  I strolled into work, went up to her dept. and told her boss that she would have to move in with him, his wife, and 3 kids seeing that she couldn't live with me and our son anymore.  He laughed in my face and tried to scare me with things like "I know such and such and can have you terminated with a phone call".  I logically drew up a list of people who needed to know what was happening.  I wrote a letter, made 100 copies, and handed them out at work.  I also called her parents and anyone in her family I could think of.  I just basically told as many people as possible, including her boss's family (which ended in divorce, losing his job and just about everything he owned).  It was especially funny when company security found cocaine in his office(another employee tipped them off).  Since my x-wife was involved with him, they demanded she take a drug test which turned out positive for cocaine.  Both: fired. :devil  
Nothing made me feel better knowing this pariah of a woman and scumbag of a man were suffering horribly for their mis-deed.  Her boss is now in jail for possession of a controlled substance with intent to distribute(police got involved after the company was informed of the cocaine in his office), and she lives with a mexican and they have another child.  I occasionally run in to some mutual friends and they tell me this mexican beats her, treats her like dirt, and doesn't let her or their son leave the house.  This makes me smile :D  My son has absolutely no contact with her whatsoever.  My lovely wife of 5 years is his mother and always will be.  This woman did this to the wrong guy (me).  I was hurt for about all of 5 seconds.  After that, I was furious, but focused.  Nothing made me feel better than to see her suffer.  When I would question myself on how much I making her suffer, I would answer with "She has no conscious and no guilt if she did this to me and our son".  I have no regrets on how I handled it.  

I don't know how much importance she puts on your child/children.  Obviously not as much as she should.  Parents should sacrifice all and everything for their
children.  Even their own happiness if it comes down to it.  Of course there are cases where the wife or husband has to get away due to violence/drug/other issue and being together
for the children just isn't an option.  But, in your case, it doesn't sound like things were not fixable with a little communication.  Communication is irrelevant now.  The best way to be
in this situation is realistic.  And the only thing I can remind you of over and over and over is to CYA (cover your arse).  Document or record everything.  Transfer any and all funds out of any
joint accounts and make your own personal account she cannot touch.  Inform your bank or credit union why you are doing this.  Don't let her get a hold of ANY of your money.  Most likely, she will try to get some or all in order to start her new life (apartment, car, clothes, new image, etc.)  
Cancel ANY and ALL credit cards.  Keep all your bills as they will show you who spent what on where and when.  I don't know how much money is involved between you two,
but this is always a MAJOR issue in divorce and the guy always gets stuck paying for everything after she's already taken half (or more).  Dude, seriously, I cannot stress enough..
You may think you know this woman.  You may think she'll never screw you so deeply to basically make you bankrupt (which is a death sentence in this economy).  Kids and money
are the most important things here.  If you can keep those two things safe, you have already won half the battle.  

while this may seem all cool and such,
the only thing I can think of is " two wrongs dont make a right."

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #67 on: December 06, 2008, 09:48:34 AM »
Let me ask you guys something else.  She is a nurse aid and is sleeping around with a nurse,  I guess the hospital has a policy against that.  I'd really like to call and turn them in.

Certainly, call it in to her supervisor.  Also have a friend make an anonymous call to the hospital patient advocate :)
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #68 on: December 06, 2008, 11:01:19 AM »
You mean it hadn't occurred to you yet that this whole thing is a marginally decent troll?

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing when he talked about the diamond and the crack.  It would be a crappy one to pull on the crowd if it is.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #69 on: December 06, 2008, 11:11:02 AM »
Yees, my wife cheated on me, with my brother and sister. Was not very nice, i have bad mental picture.

You can have the mental picture.
I want the real ones! LOL
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #70 on: December 06, 2008, 11:34:58 AM »
I am going ot reserve my opinion possibly for as later date as to this whole cheating thing. Justified unjustified right/wrong
Whenever it happens the situation sucks. Often for everyone involved. Even the cheater.

Each of us has our own lives and line to tow
None of us is in a position to pass judgement on the actions of another as to right or wrong.

And I have yet to see the split up where both sides didnt share at least some responsibly for the break up or the events that led up to it.
Not one.
And I've yet to see a break up where each side didnt point a finger at the other while minimizing their own responsibility.
almost as rare is the person who says "It was all my fault"

As for infowars situation in particular.
Only you and your wife know what your specific relationship is/was like. We are only hearing one side of the story.
Only you two can decide what to do and where to go from here.
You have to know whats right for you and your family.
what you both really want.
And what you both can realistically expect.
You can recover form this if you BOTH really want to. In fact. Most relationships do recover
But,
"Both" is the operative word.
You BOTH  have to want it to work and you BOTH have to be willing to do what it takes to work.

A split is never easy.
On many different levels. From emotions to the kids to the finances

ALL must be taken into equal consideration
Staying together isnt easy either.
but you BOTH have to weigh the pros and cons of each.
And you BOTH have to decide what is best for your specific situation.
And your specific relationship.

You and your wife have to decide. Not us. We can offer advise and support, and perhaps a bit of an emotional crutch and sounding board.
Our take on the situation is based only on your side of it.
So naturally our side will be somewhat biased.

In the end whatever you do it will have to be what you BOTH decide to do.
Not what we tell you you should do.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #71 on: December 06, 2008, 03:52:06 PM »
Well I gave it another shot today. . . . She is still moving and still seeing this other dude. 
She has made her decision.  Period.  End of story. 

Work on dealing with the decision that is already made -- there is no going back, no diamond ring or anything else is going to change it.  Think about it -- if the diamond ring had worked, all it would have spoken to is that she is a fickle little bunt and just as likely to dump you back to the curb in a week.  You do not need, nor deserve, that kind of grief.

Better off without her.  Doesn't make it hurt less, but it is the truth.

Lots of good advice already in this thread about how to protect yourself . . . I would use it if I were you.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
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« Reply #73 on: December 06, 2008, 04:46:46 PM »
To flip this one, I wonder how many of the posters have cheated on their wifes....
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« Reply #74 on: December 06, 2008, 05:00:17 PM »
To flip this one, I wonder how many of the posters have cheated on their wifes....
Many, Many, MANY oppertunities, but no.  On the other hand, as I stated in an earlier post,  I have seen many, Many, MANY women who have no problem cheating without remorse and have the uncanny ability to blame their infidelity on their husband.