I 'HOed' you if you call a high 1/4 shot from the beginning of your move to my nose a HO. Had you tried to HO me it would not have worked for you. The tell tale sign of your tail falling off should have given that away. 
i dont recall that... but I know for a fact this guy wasnt you, this guy made a direct move to get on my 12 o'clock. I guess i should have finished the story... he does that, then i break right real hard, he sets himself up for ANOTHER ho, I break again, and finally the 109k4 gets the nice turn advantage over his pony and i get on his 6 and 30mm him to kingdom come. I then proceed to call him a hotard, feeling proud of myself for surviving his 2 ho attempts then takin him down.
I usually fly the 109k4 so a ho basically always puts me out of commission.
now i will say about a month ago i had run into two f4us and had a similar story, where we both happened to merge setting up perfect hos and both held our fire, so i saluted and talked to those guys. It seems like only once in a blue moon will you someone not take that shot.
My advice if you see a ho, turn, its as simple as that, i've gotten proficient at it, and it works well. I don't count on them not being a ho tard anymore, its become too much of a pandemic these days.
Chivalry is dead.