Im not a "fighter pilot", gamer or flight sim enthusiast would be a much better description.
But until my flight leader calls for a break or engagement into enemy aircraft I would follow the last given orders for the flight. That's the way its been since the idea of formation was first implemented.
After reading all of the various posts on the FSO BBS, I think its safe to say that your question is very likely to receive a
LOL!
more than anything else!