For now, the keylogger is still necessary. My family has just started communicating via Facebook recently and my wife and I are thinking about allowing her a Facebook account soon and let her start off with people we all trust.
Over half of non reported sexual contact on minor children is from friends and family members that the "parents" trust. I have 5 kids total, 3 older boys out of the house and a 9 year old girl and 11 year old boy. All of our kids were not monitored nor do we plan on monitoring then so to speak. We believe in allowing our children experience life both good and bad sides. As a parent, we all want and hope for the best for our kids, but keeping them sheltered from from what actually out there in the real world creates a "sheltered" naive person. The term "Street Smarts" comes one way... experience, seeing and learning from your experiences in life. IMHO overprotecting your child when young does not allow them to learn to make decisions on their own, be them good or bad. we all make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. If not we (my wife and I) feel they will look for someone to tell them its ok rather then make a decision on their own (hopefully the right one). Our kids have full access to the internet and have their own email accounts. No Facebook or MySpace accounts, not that we said no, they have not requested if they can have one yet. Cell phones are for when they hit middle school (next year for our youngest son).
My youngest son came to me last night asking making a few statements. He has always been in the "popular crowd" until the past few months, he has shied away from some of his friends on his own, reason being is that one of the other kids "popular crowd" has been using what he called foul language. He said dad most everyone uses foul language sometime but "kids name" uses the "F" word twice in almost every sentence. I asked about several of his friends and he said yea they flock around "kids name" and I don't want to have to hear that. Point I am trying to make here is that Sam has learned whats right and whats wrong and had made both good and bad decisions in his short life, but they were his decisions, some with our glee some with our disappointment (and his loss of WII, Bike, having friends over for a few days etc) he has learned whats right and whats not with our guidance, reassurance and trust not suspicion and distrust.
As parents we all have to do what we feel is right for raising our children, we feel our kids are on the right path with our guidance and trust in them to make the right decisions and when they are at odds with something they know without recourse we can be spoke to about anything.
TD
Rich
