So, what do you think?

[OOZ662]

I'm not even upset at all any more and am continuing along with the plans I had before, except I'm not waiting until after we graduate like I was going to. All's well on my side; I've been tired of her games for quite a while now. She's beginning to show signs of freaking out due to her plan not working too, which makes it feel all that much better.

It seems like she pulled all of this so I'd do what I've done in the past: argue with her until eventually everything was "fixed" with me coming out on the short end of the relationship. The guy I'm 99% sure she's dating has been showing interest in her and she's been creeped out by him, but I suppose he was probably the easiest to grab and use in her quest to reinforce our relationship the way she wanted it.
Whoops.

[Shuffler]

Erika who?? Forget her... lots o fish in the pond. Why waste time.

[RipChord929]

  sorry, cant help it!

RC

[Babalonian]

For some reason, women love to see their ex's suffer.

QFTMFT  Both of you aren't feeling great after the breakup, but for some reason, her way of making herself feel better is to make you feel miserabler.

Women will do whatever they can to make you suffer when it pleases them.  Most recently from my experiences, my Ex-wife left me almost a year ago out of the blue (we were together for 8 years, married for 3).  No warning, I just came home from work one Friday (two days after my birthday) to a "Dear John" and an empty apartment (the wench took my cat too).  She took immeasurable pride in the first couple of weeks talking about the man she left me for because she thought I had no clue about who he was or where he came from... but then I realized I actually knew the guy because he was friends with a few of my friends and he preffered hanging out with that clique.  Once that happened, it put the rain on her parade real quick because it ended up with me knowing more about that guy than she did (turns out my Ex was one of 4 women he was dating at the time ), and then upon me getting in touch with those friends her boyfriend got "shutout from all of his good friends", in my Ex's words, and she _hates_ his other friends  (eh, *shrug* not my fault my friends have no respect or tolerance for a guy like that *evil grin*).

Just hang in there and dont get sucked into their games... karma is the grand equalizer.

Disclaimer:  Sorry to any female that reads this.  It is my personal opinion brought from some really crappy experiences.  I mean no offense to TxMom or any other who reads this.

Ditto.  No disrespect towards the few good ones out there.

[Auger]

Just stare at Spikes avatar for a few minutes.  Pretty soon you'll be thinking "Erika who?"

[james]

Since you are young and able to be caught early. Stay away from the high maintenance ones while you still have a chance. While you still have your sanity, and your wallet!
Keep no time for bimbos (not meaning her, I mean later down the road) and keep less time for those that want your location 24/7 and make your plans for you.

[trax1]

I've basically had the same type of relationship as you for the last 4 years(4 years this August), we've been on & off the whole time, together probably 2 1/2 of those years(were together right now), personally when we were off I couldn't be friends with her, I would never had been able to see her with another guy, or heard her talk about another guy.  We're really good friends when were together, she was & is my best friend, but seeing her with someone else would be to much to handle, maybe she feels the same way with you, that she just couldn't see you with another person, or she doesn't want to put you in that situation of you seeing her with another guy.

Woman do love to play head games with guys though, it's like a sport to them.

[Kazaa]

1. Dude, you can't be friends with your Ex.
2. Start chasing tail.

[Treize69]

1. Dude, you can't be friends with your Ex.
2. Start chasing tail.

QFT

[DiabloTX]

"Revenge is a dish best served cold." -Old Klingon Proverb.

[trax1]

"Revenge is a dish best served cold." -Old Klingon Proverb.

Isn't that kaplaa is a dish best served cold.

[allaire]

Gagh is a dish best served live.

[Heretic]

Do what I did back in my early youth days.    Bang her best friend,her sister if she has one, and let her see you with a smokin hottie.    Works like a charm.

[texasmom]

Disclaimer:  Sorry to any female that reads this.  It is my personal opinion brought from some really crappy experiences.  I mean no offense to TxMom or any other who reads this.

Oh, no offense taken at all; unfortunately I agree with you. Even the nicest of women can be vile to the people who care about them the most.

That "lets be friends" in between other guys routine is a bunch of crap. That could mean that they don't want to be alone, so in between times they're with other people they use you as a fall-back.  I'd kick that gal to the curb. Even when she comes back I'd resist the temptation to get back with her.  Let her string someone else along instead.

[moot]

Ditch the chick, move on.  One down, millions to go.