So, what do you think?

[OOZ662]

Bang her best friend,her sister if she has one, and let her see you with a smokin hottie.    Works like a charm.

Unfortunately, she just recently dumped off all of her freinds (like a few days before me) and she only has a little emo brother.

One of her Ex-friends is extremely hot, but isn't one for dating. A shame, really.

So, very long story short, I found much more evidence to support that she did it for the sheer point of manipulation. The guy she's dating is the guy that she pretty much hates, but she knows I hate him more. Quite obviously, her plan was to leave me for him, get me to fight with her about it for a while, then when she "gave in" and we got back together, she'd restructure the relationship the way she wanted it without regard for me. She's done it a couple times in the past that were much less severe.

I'm sure when she moved to Phase 2 by starting up the scrap (that was supposed to end with us being all lovey makeup-sexy) and the reply was "f* off," she freaked out. Called up my mom (who's close to her) and said that it's my job to apologize or else things are over between us (read: Oh no, it didn't work, guilt him!). She's been sitting here on IM flashing her status back and forth as if to say, "I'm here! Come apologize!" for the past couple days.
I think it's starting to sink in that I stopped giving a care.

[Rash]

Instead of giving her the FO, you should of said you wished them wonderful and happy life together.   Then stop responding to her for a few days.  Then when you do talk, continue to be nice, but cut her off short, saying you got go do some stuff.

[OOZ662]

I wouldn't even want to hint at them having a happy life together. Not only because I was angry with her, but also because I could never wish him a happy life.
Seriously, worst guy on the planet.
Hence why I know she did it on purpose.

[Rash]

LOL, I know the feeling all to well.

She doesn't want a life with him either.  Hence, the reason you tell her that.  It shows her you're thinking about moving on with your life without her.

[Curlew]

hahahahaha i gotta say im proud of you bro, to repeat what everyone else is saying, go chase some tail bro, let her chill out and learn her lesson, when she finally gives in that she was manipulating and comes to appologize to you then point it all out to her, and if she really truely cares then roll with it again, and tell her if she ever tries this crap again to forget it, or you could just go get frisky with other fine ladies 

[OOZ662]

I find it rather hilarious that only now that I've broken 18 will people tell me to go get laid. People used to keep quiet about that...

[DREDIOCK]

No, but I lack life experience, unlike you people. Hence.

You want advice based on life experience?
Bail, Now! Do not pass go Do not collect $200.
Stay friends if you can.(But dont count on it) But do NOT pursue this relationship any further regardless of what your noodle and your heart may tell you.
People dont change all that much as they get older..other then being an older version of the same person. So if your experiencing aggravation do to games now. Its only going to be more of the same later.
Why commit yourself to a life of headaches?

[1pLUs44]

First off, I'd like to first acknowledge that I know this will all blow by in a little while. I'm simply asking about it here to put my mind toward something other than having a screaming fight with her.

Erika (the girl that used to be in my avatar) pulled yet another one today. We've been on and off quite a bit over the last four years, but over that time I thought we had become great friends underneath our relationship.

Within the last few weeks, we were having lots of issues and she decided it was time for a break (as I understood it, some time apart with intent to come back together). Sure, fine. I really don't have issues with her dating other guys any more. I'd probably go see other girls, too. We'd still be good friends.

Today was the day we had to bring all of our books back to school or else miss graduation, and I had still been using them. Quite a bit of weight and it was really hot out, including the fact that I wore rather warm clothes figuring I'd be getting rides like always. Being the knucklehead that I am, I left them on the floor this morning. I asked Erika if I could at least get a ride one way to pick them up and haul them back after school. She said sure, maybe we could go both ways. A period later, she yelled at me down the hall that we'd have to hurry up after school. Next, she interrupts my PreCalculus final to tell me that she's pretty much ditching me. Why? She has "stuff to do." What sort of stuff? Maybe I could ride along just one way and get out of your hair? "Just stuff." She then promptly left before I could reply. Knowing her, that simply means she's picked a new guy. Don't really care. Treating me like a baby and acting like one? Pisses me off. Completely ditching me? Pisses me off.

Now remember, we've been dating a solid two years out of the last 3.5 and have been good friends for the last few months. She later tells me that I have no right to know anything about this person. Now, I figure that as a friend, I ought to at least know who's taking my former place and why she feels that way. Instead, I've simply been knocked to the curb and told I don't have the right. (It makes me wonder if she's actually too embarrassed of him to tell me.)

So, my question. Is it justifiable that I'm so angry at her, or am I being selfish?

Huh, I was in your situation in December, except it was like "stay out of my life". And then, in January "I want you in my life" then, 3 weeks ago "stay out of my life" First time it was her who did it, 2nd it was me.

"Call me back when word is that she's gone. Cat-like-thief she stole air from my lungs."

Little rhyme from a song that really described the girl I was involved with.

[DREDIOCK]

I find it rather hilarious that only now that I've broken 18 will people tell me to go get laid. People used to keep quiet about that...

Probably because its considered inappropriate for adults to tell children to go get laid.

With this chick you can be either the master or the submissive.Sounds like her dominance is the position she is striving for. Its your choice. If you decide to keep nailing this chick, Do so on your own terms. Not hers. She owes you the apology.

I'll give you the same advice about women my wife recently gave my sons friend who was having woman problems "Whatever you do. Dont give up your balls"
This holds true with any woman. If you do. you may have her but she wont respect you because regardless of all this "empowerment of women" crap. Most women still want to be made to feel like a woman in their personal relationships. Now this does  NOT mean you have to act like an A hole. But it does mean you need to be strong emotionally and not put up with her crap and game playing.

You want to throw this chick for a loop? IM her and tell her SHE is the one that owes you the apology. Not the other way around. And your not really interested in dealing with her or hearing from her until she does Plain and simple. Whatever you do dont argue about it.DONT show any anger at all. Dont even respond to her arguments. Ignore them.
She will either give up and go away. Or she will apologise. Either way. you win.
She'll apologize though. trust me. particularly if you ignore her. Then when she does. Proceed on your own terms in whichever direction you want. or not at all.
Either way. Your in control. its YOUR choice.

[RipChord929]

  this IS funny....

[Treize69]

I find it rather hilarious that only now that I've broken 18 will people tell me to go get laid. People used to keep quiet about that...

I'd tell you that if you were 12.

No better way to replace your old problems with new ones than a random hookup! 

[Golfer]

I find it rather hilarious that only now that I've broken 18 will people tell me to go get laid. People used to keep quiet about that...

Well now you're legally responsible enough for anything that can be interpreted as child porn on your own computer.  You're also now considered an adult.

You mentioned a friend who's extremely hot AND not fit for dating?  You just found yourself a tutor and you'll like what she has to teach you!  The best part is you won't have to take her out to butter her up and she'll still ride you like an attention starved cowgirl.

Or as my good ladyfriend says to the guys in her life who get dumped on by women:

"DTB" = Ditch the B1tch.

[dentin]

Lotsa decent opinions/advice.  Here's mine derived from experience: ditch the "split-tail", stop wasting time, millions of "birds" in this here world. Matter-of-fact, at your age you really should have a "flock" of `em. 



 

[OOZ662]

You mentioned a friend who's extremely hot AND not fit for dating?  You just found yourself a tutor and you'll like what she has to teach you!  The best part is you won't have to take her out to butter her up and she'll still ride you like an attention starved cowgirl.

Trust me, I'd be at that if I could but not only is she movong away for college, but she won't date anybody for various reasons. I'd spend a hell of a lot more time convinving her to date in the first place, much less to date me.

[trax1]

Just keep basically ignoring her, this way if she truly does want a relationship with you she'll be the one crawling back to you apologizing, and if you take her back you'll have the upper hand in the relationship.