I do both AH and WoT, what is possible in one is neither possible nor desirable in the other.
First off think about what it is your asking for, I mean really sit down and think.
If you made it possible to disconnect in AH without your plane dieing, and you can reconnect.
Then you also just made it possible for people to pull their internet cable, disconnect to avoid a fight, and reconnect.
Letting you back into the plane after he's given up. Really think that would be good for gameplay?
Do you See?
Bad news, do NOT open that door, don't ask for it to be opened.
AH is the way it is for a reason. HT knows what will work, and what won't.
He knows what opens holes to be exploited, and what closed them.
Work within the game to do as much as you can. But don't ask for the game to be changed to suit you.
Change yourself to suit the game.