I suggest that the fundamental difference between those who object to raising the time limit to changing and those who don't, boils down to the difference between the finding a fight, and picking a fight. Whether ENY crippled, or grossly outnumbered, I have never had a problem finding or picking a fight. If you can't find a fight, all you need to do is give someone a reason to fight you. If you can't find a fight, and you aren't giving your opponent a reason to fight you... Well duh, it's because you aren't worth the fight.
Try taking something from them that they deem worth defending, like maybe a base. In my experience, this typically generates a pretty good fight. On the other hand, I suppose you could come here to the forums to look for a fight, and cry about nobody delivering a fight to you.
Bottom line, if nobody's fighting you, it isn't your country's fault, it's not your countryman's fault, or even your opponent's fault, it's simply that nobody considers you worth fighting.
If you build it, they will come.