Please educate me to the FAR that says you can not put fuel from one aircraft back into it, or another?
There isn't one. There are however standards and procedures for FBOs and operators when it comes to treating the fuel removed during defueling operations as contaminated fuel. Find an FBO that first actually HAS a truck that can be used to defuel because this happens so infrequently, many/most don't. Then if you wanted to use it you'd have to test the fuel being removed from the aircraft, test the fuel in the truck, etc, etc. giant PITA. It gets stuck in a tank somewhere and used to power diesel engines of the line guys and mechanics.
I believe the only operator I can think of that allows it are various branches of the military. FBOs won't, at least the ones I've been involved with in several instances when it was required. Also some operators prohibit it in the FOM/GOM.
It's the same reason that fuel trucks are controlled, fuel sumped for inspection each day and such. I don't know what kind of little microbes or contaminants some random airplane has growing in it. How long the airplane sat accumulating said growths.
Defueling procedures at the FBO I worked at involved a hand pump and putting the fuel in the sump tanks. The one time I've needed the Lear defueled was after a load of passengers showed up for a flight to NY from Palm Beach. They then said we needed to stop in Vero or Stuart or somewhere to pick up 2 more passengers. Well, we needed to shed 225 gallons to make landing weight. That fuel went into the defuel truck and the policy at that FBO (and others, universally I've experienced) is to not fuel aircraft from it because it's treated as contaminated fuel.
So rather than me finding you an FAR that doesn't exist, find me an operator/operation that does it.