actually i did read your entire idea and it fails in several ways. you're focused on the gamey behavior of a few, that by your own description of your usual activity you should not encounter enough to even matter. the bomb and bail lancstuka kamikaze dweebs are usually squeakers, mixed into a horde trying to over run a base. it's one thing to choose not to up from a capped field, it's another to be forced to wait in tower for 5 minutes because you got rammed, hit a tree, missed the runway deadstick, got ho'd by a tempest dweeb, or any of the other undesirable things that happen. your grand idea would not prevent the behavior you find offensive more than it would penalize people who don't have the patience to tolerate such a nonsensical setting.
no offense but if you're flying around in a 262 looking for bombers, below 20k, i think points are more of a factor than "immersion". when i hunt bombers, it's at 30k in a ta152, 110g2 or 190d9, hour or more flying around actually looking for bombers, not lancstuka kamikaze dweebs in the horde at 5k. but that's just me, i enjoy the immersion.