I used to get all worked up when playing AirWarrior and then Warbirds. When I came to Aces High, I knew it was up to me to change and I did. There is nothing anyone does or can do that upsets me anymore. I suppose it is partly because I'm in no hurry and just fly away and find something else to do. My squaddies will hear on vox from time to time something like "Oh geez, this guy just ______________", from me, while I'm normally giggling as I turn my nose away and motor away.
I found it was me that needed changing, not how the game is played or the game or how others choose to play it. Good thing too, as it is obvious that wanting others to change or demanding that they do is futile.
Flying with VMF-222 does help. Every person in the squad is an adult, acts like one, and adds to my enjoyment. Everyone. That's a big deal to me. One depressed, or angry player in your squad has a tendency to snowball, others join in and it ends up being a losers lounge. xJUGGOx is our CO. Get with him if you are interested in joining. VMF-222 isn't really actively recruiting but the squad continues to grow. It doesn't have to be that squad, find some place you fit, that you like and go there.
If you are responsible for your own happiness, then be happy.