As a solo flyer, I defend 99% of the time. When there are a bunch of late war monsters above me, it is time to adjourn to another field. Choosing smaller fights is preferable to futile attempts at defending and giving out an easy kill to the mob (
one of them is gonna get it).
Do enjoy manning a field gun and popping vulchers, though. Enjoy that very much.
Often spend time in the tower, scanning the radar for a single con approaching an inactive base. The problem is that lone con coming in is either: high buffs going for the coveted town center, or a suicide porker with no interest in a fight.
Been doing a lot of upping for nothing lately.
When they actually do come for a fight, you have to finish them quick or else three friendlies will up to help clear your twelve. This is after several minutes of dodging BnZ passes until finally gaining the advantage. The "friendly" La-7/Spit XVI/P-51D makes one pass to reap the glory of your hard fought battle.
I still love this game, though and am going to keep playing my way.
Most seem to join the attack and that's OK. No way to make people play the way you want them to.
The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can relax and play the game the way
you want to.