Midway, maybe there is some part of your personality you are hiding which causes people to get misperceptions of you, if you are genuinely trying to be otherwise.
Because I have to admit, the more I read stuff from you; the more I shudder. Although I can tell from your otherwise apparent consistency that you do not try to mean it.
It could be as simple as accepting that part of yourself would just simply fix the way you present yourself and voila, everyone would see you as you picture yourself

Of course, things never translate instantly, but it could be a start?