Welcome to the game. Let me be blunt, you will either like it or you won't. Every item you used to back up your case can be turned right around on yourself. Just because you have been a spectator for months and a participant for weeks, do not assume your ideas have not been thought of, evaluated and dismissed or begged for for the last bazzilion years the game has been around.
I am glad to hear you are a vet, it is great, thanks for your service. There are a lot of vets in the game which is really cool. There are a lot of d*cks too, but find an MMOG without one. Remember that the more vociferous a person is, he or she probably heads towards the d*ck end of the spectrum as a rule. (especially civilians
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I am sorry you had trouble getting replies to your questions or that you feel the info was wrong. If I was on and saw or heard them I would have tried to assist you without the dweebery Alt F-4 answer some think amusing.
I know there are a ton of squads which do what you say you want and jump on every new guy that comes along, unfortunately, those are the ones you will usually want to stay clear of. Joining a squad is cool and all, but it is better for the individual person to investigate a little on which squads play the game the way they want to play it.
Should you have come in here to the help and training section, there would have been a plethora of people offering advice and help with any facet of the game you don't understand. But, coming in here like a bull in a china shop will probably make a few of the nicer guys shy away from your perceived personality and make all the d*cks hard.
Give and take goes both ways sir. Should you use the search feature on the boards to look up the game play changes you think the game needs you may find them discussed to the nth degree, if you don't, then there is always the wishlist section of the boards. But, be prepared to answer all the minute details that will go into any changes that will be pointed out. You don't get a free pass to wish for something, but leave everyone else to figure out how to do it. You do have the right to your opinion, but remember, the rest of us have the equal right to our own opinions, which might not always agree with yours.
Numbers are what they are, you can be one of them or not. Your decision. Again, welcome to the game.