Manual trans isn't as much of a "must have" with newer sports cars, at least not like it was.
I was the same, all my cars were manual when I first started driving performance cars, my RX7 in 94, my Stealth Turbo in 95, both my Firebirds, my Corvettes, our Viper - etc. I wouldn't "settle" for an auto either, although a couple of older classic cars had them.
Now auto trans technology is insane, and some types will perform far faster than any manual ever could, and with all the computer controls actually give the driver more control and options. The new Corvette Z06 is supposedly faster with the auto trans than the manual, not just in drag strip racing but on the track as well. My missus's current summer car, until this spring anyhow, is an auto trans, and is one of the best performing street or track cars you could buy for the $ in the late 2000s until only a couple years ago (Nissan GTR). So far as the violent feel you're talking about, Jeremy Clarkson put himself in the hospital with a Nissan GTR when they first came out by screwing his neck and back up in hard cornering. Believe me, it's a very uncomfortable feeling for passengers that haven't been in a high performance car like that when you start to toss it around.
I still like rowing around myself too, but I also like a lot of the advanced tech and options with some of the newer auto transmissions as well, it's car to car, and there is no longer any negative performance impacts by going with an auto in many, many cars now. In fact, with a lot of the dual clutch and other types of advances, it's the opposite effect in a lot of cases. I'm at the point now where I wouldn't rule out a car because of an auto only trans, some don't even give you the option in any case now. We're selling the GTR in the spring, and the car she wants next is most likely the Alfa 4c, and you can't even get a manual with it. I want the Z06, and probably would still get the manual, but the auto has appeal as well.