Its not so much the HO's as the ramming that almost inevitably follows. I've got no problem with going nose to nose with a guy, I usually fire a really short burst and then break off, but lately I've noticed that it appears that 99.5% of people in the MA will go for a shot, any shot, if they think they have a tiny chance to hit you. They also won't budge- they fly straight at you wth guns blazing until either you die or they do.
And oftentime, you CAN'T get out of the way, at least it has seemed that way to me.
This actually brings me to another question, which is the "net lag" effect in rams. A couple months ago, I thought I had it figured out, but I don't. I thought it was whoever "saw" the ram, i.e. was looking at the other plane and saw them run into you, that got "blamed" for the ram, and killed. I actually thought I had a good case here, because I had a 8 or 9 kill sortie in an M3 a few months ago, and my last 2 kills were rams. I deliberately rammed a couple airplanes that were trying to take off after I had run out of bullets for that uber .50

. I was careful NOT to look at the enemy airplane when I rammed them, and it seemed to work, they collapsed and I took no damage.
However, in the past few days I've been rammed 5 or 6 times by people that were still going for a shot as I manuevered out of either a head-on pass or a tail-end bounce (that one was last night). I'm watching them (I typically try to barrel roll out of the HO), and I see them adjusting their course to try to shoot at me, only to drive their plane right through me. In the last night one, I was in a Ki-61 and was attacked by a spitfire as I took off. He managed to miss on his first pass (while I was still on the ground) and came around again as I lifted off the runway. I was only doing about 150 or so, so I "broke" left (as hard as you can at 150mph...). I was watching the Spit out the back (the Ki-61 has an atrocious rear view, by the way), and when it looked like he was going to overshoot, I rolled 180 degrees so I could keep track of him through the top view, and maybe get a snapshot off at him. Instead, I watched him continue to try to follow me through my turn, and we collided canopy to canopy.
Now, my question is this- On my end, I'm watching psychotic Spit and P51D drivers try to ram me with their airplanes after I manuever away from their guns. What are they seeing on THEIR screen? Am I like 200 yards farther away and they are still tracking for a shot when I suddenly just explode into flames? How does this game determine who gets "blamed" for a collision? To me at least, it appears that the person with the fastest connection always gets blamed, no matter what- I've NEVER seen an enemy go down in flames that I hadn't shot right before, but it happens to me all the time. Or does it? Does it show as a ram on my end, but on their end they shot the "me" that was 200 yards away and I blew up?
Anyway, if anyone knows the answer to that question, I'd very much appreciate it. Oh, by the way, it is a QUESTION, not a WHINE. I'm sure some folks will call it a whine anyway though, so I don't even know why I bothered.