Nor do I, Animl.
That's one reason I fly alone a lot. I see friendlies ganging up on guys a lot too.
I prefer to go off and just have fun.
When I see a friendly base being horded, I go check it out and see if the attackers are seriously trying to take the base, or just luring defenders up to pad their kill stats (and it's not hard to tell what they really want). I don't mind getting shot down defending if upping might prevent the base from being captured. But upping to pad someone's stats..........nope, I look elsewhere.