You guys are still missing a point, for those players trying to "win the war" in either a offensive or defensive mode, they are trying to kill any and all opponents. That is how most of the 3/1 5/2 melees happen that I see. 
3-5 on 1 is pretty much unacceptable game play. Some just don’t want to retain players. Someone has to pick one, ya can’t have both
Again, no excuse matters, if its not fun they leave. They don’t wait for excuses, excuses are for those who read here, after the fact, most don’t
I say they miss the point
