The new wears off the daisy for everyone sooner or later. AH has gotten bigger, true enough. It has more planes, and the new planes make the match-ups different from a year or two ago. Still, that doesn't make the game stale. What does it is the sense of challenge leaving.
Many of you have done this game so long you can no longer feel the thrill like you did when you first started. It just isn't there. You don't have that question hanging over your head anymore, "Am I good?" Either you are or you aren't, and you figured it out long ago.
Hangtime, you are pretty much a pony man. After three years, how many new ways is there to fly and fight in it? The only way to keep the game fresh is to discover something new- one of the prime reasons frequent updates are the lifeblood of this sim. If people are not adept at finding "new" themselves, HTC has to help them along.
If you cannot find something different to do in the sim, something you can do without being dependent on others, you are doomed to leave. But whatever you do, don't point at others and the way they play as the source of your angst- you either want to be a part of it or you don't. Frankly, the way you spoke of the 8 typhie drivers in your example sortie would stear me clear of anything you set up in the future.