I love the HO lottery.
Go along for the ride and get a kill with or without taking hits.
Go along for the ride and get killed with or without scoring hits.
Go along for the ride and get a mutual kill.
Evade, but take hits or get shot down.
Evade without taking hits, extend, and go home.
Evade without taking hits, extend, and try again.
Evade without taking hits, turn, and face another HO lottery.
Evade without taking hits, turn, get outmaneuvered, and get shot down.
Evade without taking hits, turn, outmaneuver the opponent, and get a kill.
If you go with the HO, its a shooting match/net lag battle, may the fastest/most accurate/luckiest man win. If you are good at head-on gunnery and fly a heavily armed aircraft that is accurate at long range, why not? Though shooting skills only determine a fraction of the probability of winning.
If try to evade the HO, but can't fly worth a darn or have a slow plane, you may find yourself in a worse position than the HO. At least with HO, you have some chance however small.
If you succeed at evading the HO, you get to enjoy the real meat of an air combat sim: trying to find a way to get your guns on the target before the target does the same to you. Of course, dissimilar aircraft is the "extra spicy" option I prefer.
If you don't like HOs learn to fly at the opponent head on in such a way to deny his shot opportunity as opposed to turning and running, this will give you the most options possible.
I am somewhat moody. Some days I never go for an HO shot, other days evasion never crosses my mind. On a day where I am shooting straight, beware! HO kills are cheap and easy if you can hit and kill your target when he thinks you can't (long range or headon high deflection shots).
I never whine about an HO. If I lose, I just grab another plane since the price is right (free

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If you find HOs in the MA unrealistically common, then respawning, killshooter, and every other gamey feature used to piss off die-hard realism fanatics are probably bothering you as well.
"Relax... it's just a game."