HoHun: Well, the Ho 229 potentially could have a pretty small RCS by comparison with other fighters of its day. However, it should be noted that a great deal of its wings and fusilage were wood covered, but with (as I recall) a metal bracing and some ribbing and spars. If they painted it with metalic based paint, put a "egg-crate" screen over the engine inlets similar to the 117 uses, and sputtered gold onto the canopy to make it radar reflecting, it would be very stealthly indeed by comparison to other aircraft of like size and era. The lack of propellors, and the engines being buried in the wings really cuts the RCS down, so long as those engines are not visible on radar because of transparent aircraft skin around them.
I've read about the use of RAM on German U-boat schnorkles, to try to defeat sea-search radar. It was not particularly successful. The problem with RAM is, it is frequency specific, and must be a good 5 wavelengths or more in depth to absorbe an appreciable amount of incident E-mag energy. So while it did reduce the signature somewhat, the newer radars deployed against them were still sensitive enough to pick it up at fairly decent ranges. In other words, it reduced detection range a bit, but not enough to protect the sub in most cases. The Allies simply tightened their search patterns a bit more to account for the reduced detection range. Using different frequencies also foiled the RAM coatings.
What Minus says is true. Even the vaunted B2 and F117 are not invisible to all forms of E-M transmissions. The problem is not just detecting the presence of a stealth aircraft, but to track it and guide a weapon to a successful intercept. Even during the Gulf War, the Iraqi often knew "something" was up there. But it was elusive enough that they couldn't track and engage the F117's. They were thus reduced to blindly throwing up unguided flak in the vain hope of catching an enemy plane with the "golden BB."