Author Topic: Are you over 18 years old and still living at home? (Read 1464 times)

Ripsnort · « **Reply #30 on:** May 16, 2002, 01:07:49 PM »

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Originally posted by AKSWulfe

So if you want my opinion, it's good so long as they are preparing themselves to move out ASAP. But if they got no plans- don't get more education for atleast an "ok" job, then.....
-SW

Yep, agree!

easymo · « **Reply #31 on:** May 16, 2002, 01:21:49 PM »

I left home at 16. 35 cents in my pocket, and the cloths I was wearing. Hitched around the western U.S., doing odd jobs, for a couple of years, before I went into the Army. Aside from helping turn me into a hard ass. I don't see where it did me any good.

Sandman · « **Reply #32 on:** May 16, 2002, 01:30:05 PM »

Spot on Rip. I left home at 20. I started paying rent at 18.

Skuzzy · « **Reply #33 on:** May 16, 2002, 01:37:14 PM »

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Originally posted by easymo
I left home at 16. 35 cents in my pocket, and the cloths I was wearing. Hitched around the western U.S., doing odd jobs, for a couple of years, before I went into the Army. Aside from helping turn me into a hard ass. I don't see where it did me any good.

I will challenge ya on that one easymo. My bet is it takes a lot to get you worried and most day to day crap just rolls off yer back. Whether you see it or not, you are probably much stronger in character than most folks.
I can see it in your posts to this BBS. I consider that worth quite a bit.

Chaos68 · « **Reply #34 on:** May 16, 2002, 01:57:47 PM »

i had a full time job when i turned 18. (finished highschool at an early age).
my mom didnt charge me rent but i moved out anyways to start my own life.

i'm proud that i have never asked my mom for money since i moved out. ive paid for everything myself or with my girlfriend (who lives with me). even when i quit my comcast job and we had little money we still made it through the hard times.

what rip is doing is a good way to teach the kids the way of life. (NOTHING IS FOR FREE!)

Ripsnort · « **Reply #35 on:** May 16, 2002, 02:10:44 PM »

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Originally posted by easymo
I left home at 16. 35 cents in my pocket, and the cloths I was wearing. Hitched around the western U.S., doing odd jobs, for a couple of years, before I went into the Army. Aside from helping turn me into a hard ass. I don't see where it did me any good.

Not only what Skuzzy said, but you survived a war...alot to be said there..

Apache · « **Reply #36 on:** May 16, 2002, 02:11:19 PM »

My son just moved out this past Sunday. It was his 20th birthday. He moved back to Clemson SC, which is around 300 miles from us. My wife was upset but I was ecstatic, lol.

Seriously, I was proud that he had the wherewithall to realize he couldn't "grow" any more sittin' around Dad's house and he said as much. He had a job lined up before he left and that told me that maybe he is growin' up...a little.

I did tell him right before he drove off. "Free ride is over son. Come back anytime, but it will cost ya".

Me? I left home at 18.

Curval · « **Reply #37 on:** May 16, 2002, 02:13:37 PM »

I don't disagree with the whole paying rent thing either...

However, there are a few things that I will give my kids without hesitation.

1. The best education money can buy.

2. Money to travel. If my kids want to travel I will always be there for them with a ticket. Some of the best lessons in life I learned came from exposure to the rest of the world.

3. Computer equipment. My 2.5 year old is already pretty good with his computer. I intend to let both kids have whatever they want when it comes to this...until they can afford their own.

4. Tennis lessons.....planning for my retirement here.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #38 on:** May 16, 2002, 02:17:25 PM »

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Originally posted by Chaos68
i had a full time job when i turned 18. (finished highschool at an early age).
my mom didnt charge me rent but i moved out anyways to start my own life.

i'm proud that i have never asked my mom for money since i moved out. ive paid for everything myself or with my girlfriend (who lives with me). even when i quit my comcast job and we had little money we still made it through the hard times.

what rip is doing is a good way to teach the kids the way of life. (NOTHING IS FOR FREE!)

Great success story! I too have never taken a loan from my parents..even when desperate and offered one...my sister OTOH soaks my retired, fixed income dad anytime she thinks of it, never paid a cent back...I asked my dad, a very thoughtful, fruegal person when it comes to money, "Why do you loan her the money?" He said "If she wasn't my daughter, I doubt I'd even be friends with her, its blood." (Shrugs)

fdiron · « **Reply #39 on:** May 16, 2002, 02:25:24 PM »

I'm sure glad I don't have parents like you guys. I'm 19, living at home, majoring in biology and pulling in a 3.75 gpa. I work with alot of guys who live on their own though. Not only do they have to work longer hours than I do just to pay rent, their gpa also suffers from it. Of course if your kids are big losers, kick them out and dont look back.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #40 on:** May 16, 2002, 02:39:50 PM »

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Originally posted by fdiron
I'm sure glad I don't have parents like you guys. I'm 19, living at home, majoring in biology and pulling in a 3.75 gpa. I work with alot of guys who live on their own though. Not only do they have to work longer hours than I do just to pay rent, their gpa also suffers from it. Of course if your kids are big losers, kick them out and dont look back.

Do they teach you to absorb what you read?

Read the posts again

"if they are attending school and/or are working..they would live at home"

Skuzzy · « **Reply #41 on:** May 16, 2002, 03:19:18 PM »

fdiron, my son had the choice of staying here and going to school, or doing it himself. If he stayed, we would pay his way providing he maintained a passable grade point average.
My parents were pretty poor, but I never missed a meal, always had a roof over my head, and clothes on my back.
I worked my way through college. It was hard, but you cannot imagine how I felt when I graduated.

An education is the one thing parents cannot shrug off today. It is the best thing a parent can do. My parents felt bad they could not help me much, but they did what they could do, and I could tell they gave up stuff to do so.

I do not think there is a parent in this thread who would not give up something if it meant a better education for thier kids.

ygsmilo · « **Reply #42 on:** May 16, 2002, 03:21:16 PM »

Ripsnort,

You need to get a trust set up,,,

there are benifits for both you and your kids.

Me,

Grew up on a big farm/cattle operation. Had more responsiblity placed on my shoulders when I was 13 then most of the adults ever have put on them. Went to college, worked every summer on the farm, graduated college and had to be at my new job the day after graduated. Parents supported me when I needed it and kicked me in the bellybutton when I needed it.

Still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #43 on:** May 16, 2002, 03:23:59 PM »

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Originally posted by ygsmilo
Ripsnort,

You need to get a trust set up,,,

there are benifits for both you and your kids.

Me,

Grew up on a big farm/cattle operation. Had more responsiblity placed on my shoulders when I was 13 then most of the adults ever have put on them. Went to college, worked every summer on the farm, graduated college and had to be at my new job the day after graduated. Parents supported me when I needed it and kicked me in the bellybutton when I needed it.

Still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

Most kids I went to highschool with got up at 6:30 to catch a 7am bus...I was up at 4am doing chores till the bus came, I'm sure you were too. Hated it, but now I can appreciate it...you?

Sikboy · « **Reply #44 on:** May 16, 2002, 03:27:00 PM »

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Originally posted by fdiron
blah blah blah and pulling in a 3.75 gpa blah blah blah

Slacker

-Sikboy