Karnak, if you want to check my stats you wouldn't be suprised, osties have killed me many times, I do get shot down by them frequently, if I am assisting a base attack (which I frequently do) and the VH is up (which it frequently is) I'm one of the many who will drop what they're doing and thoughtlessly attack it to kill it before it gets to the town to screw the goon (which they frequently do).
my point is the problem isn't the osty but the tactics people use against it, if your attacking a base - kill the VH first, if an osty is attacking a town - leave it alone and hunt the M3 or hit him while he's shelling the town, if your in a Pz - keep your aproaches distant or prepare to die (problem in this case is not osty but AH's armor modelling), if you have to kill the osty take your time - orbit him at about 2k and make fast spiralling HIGH ANGLE testing passes, never commit to an attack, if you see tracers abort.
Usually you won't be alone ( if you are, again, it's your own stupid fault ) so pair up against him, one draws fire while the other bounces him
If I can take my time with the osty I WILL kill it unscathed, but usually I'm impatient and go in without care (it is after all a game) I blame my own actions not the osties 'uberness', people who do are as unreasonable as HO whiners.