Of course it's discussed here. It's continually discussed here.
Here's some simple .50 BMG ballistics:
@2500 yards
velocity=1266 fps
energy=2849 ft. lbs.
time of flight=4.135 seconds
Now, can you be hit at 1k? Absolutely. Will it hit hard? Well, I'd say 2849 ft/lbs is hard.
Yet our bullets essentially disappear ~ 1.1 or 1.2. Is that right? Is that the way it should be? From six or eight guns fired simultaneously that have a cyclic rate of ~ 850 RPM for the aircraft model?
Probably the easiest dynamic thing to program accurately in this whole online ACM game environment would be the gun ballistics.
After all, for the most part this data is known, is verifiable and is easily computed using standardized equations. In short, it's the kind of thing computers are supposed to do very well.
So why would anyone want to "fudge" the ballistics? It's probably the ONE thing that can be done correctly. And range is already "fudged" here to make it shorter. The bullets just disappear around 1.1; we all know they will go much farther.
As for your complaint that anyone is whining about IL2, I don't see any whines. I see folks that don't agree with the route IL2 took on ballistics. To you, that's probably a whine.

Nice thing is there is a choice. If you like what IL2 presents more than AH... good for you. It's SO easy to fly what YOU like, isn't it? Probably save you money in the long run as well.
What I DO see is a continual parade of IL2 supporters coming here to the AH BBS and sharing their diagreements with how AH does some things. I don't see those as whines either. They have their opinion and are certainly entitled to it.
I guess what I don't understand is the messianic drive to convert someone else.
I don't go to other boards and proselytize for AH. I think that's just common courtesy.
A true ACM junkie who becomes disenchanted with his present form of ACM entertainment will go looking for a new experience. If he's a true ACM junkie, he'll know what else is out there to try. I don't think anyone at WB or IL2 needs me telling them anything. They can find it on their own.
As I said, I hope they enjoy their game. It's best for all if they do.
And common courtesy should be much more common.