Author Topic: Am I a bad parent? (Read 3145 times)

Skuzzy · « **Reply #15 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:28:14 PM »

Welp,..I always held to the "rule of moderation". As long things are done in a moderate manner, I see no harm in it.

Me being the computer nerd I am, I have always had several computers around the house. I use to get LAN games and play with the kids for an hour or two on Wed. nights.
No other time was allowed to play games on the computers and they always had to have all thier chores and schoolwork done.

The kids would look forward to those nights to maul Dad, and not have to worry about any retributions. It was just fun time.

Course, I was careful about the games chosen.

hyena426 · « **Reply #16 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:28:24 PM »

well,,i dont think you should take away all games,,,i had a atari,,and nitendo growing up by the time i was 6 years old..im 28 now,,and all i do now is play aces high,,,and go out and ride moto dirt bikes ,,play football,,hike,,,go to the shootin range,,,,i dont think games affected me,,or turned me into a lazy bum,,,i dont think kids should be restricted from games,,just restricted from there time playing them,,and dont let them play adult games till there old anuff

what you will do ,,is turn him into a game addict,,he will go over to freinds house play there games,,,and wont be able to stop because he dont got any of his own,,i got a freind<~~good example,,,his parents didnt let him watch tv as a kid,,,,and when he comes over to my house,,,his eyes are glued on it ,,and you cant even get his attetion hardly with out hitting him on the head,,because its like a kid looking at somthing for his first time,lol,,,depriving him of the tv,,turned him into a tv zombie!!

i think you should give them games,,but just dont let them play them all day,,make them go out side and play

Ripsnort · « **Reply #17 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:28:56 PM »

They both enjoy AH.(THey have it on their computer in their room) and my oldest has an AH account he uses now and then... Its a flight sim. They ask questions, I explain to them history, my son even checked out a book for youngsters at the library for WW2 aircraft! They build models of WW2 aircraft, paint pictures of the aircraft, my oldest knows every WW2 fighter by silouette alone!...So, in essense, AH is pro-active for historical study...can't say the same for Frogger, now can you?

nuchpatrick · « **Reply #18 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:30:01 PM »

Gezz..Rip..you get to play a Video game how many hours aweek?? Think thats fair to the little one? I know know that I could not do a single thing till I got my home work done.

That was the rule in my parents house..Homework then you can play.. and of course there is the 'required family time' I think I recall.. I got one or two hours on the old sega..lol then it was family time..

But then each parent has the right raise their own children up the way they want to.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #19 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:30:39 PM »

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Originally posted by nuchpatrick
Gezz..Rip..you get to play a Video game how many hours aweek?? Think thats fair to the little one? I know know that I could not do a single thing till I got my home work done.

That was the rule in my parents house..Homework then you can play.. and of course there is the 'required family time' I think I recall.. I got one or two hours on the old sega..lol then it was family time..

But then each parent has the right raise their own children up the way they want to.

Read the whole thread.

Hawklore · « **Reply #20 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:30:42 PM »

Rip, If my parents raised me that way...I actualy might be glad..

But maybe what you can do is say if you can make a fire or what not since he is only 7 then you can let him "Rent" a game system..or make him buy it himself...

Airhead · « **Reply #21 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:30:43 PM »

sims? games? You say tomato, I say tomatoe....

Rip, is this the same kid that shot me down in the H2H arena several times?

Do you have a time frame for when you think he'll be old enough for an X-Box, or is it forever banned (omg, hot button keyword) from your home? I know you're teaching him responsibility with fishing gear, firearms and chores around the house, and I know you love your boys and you're a good father, but with all due respect a little compromise on your rules might not be a bad thing...anyway it gives you a bit of leverage to ensure the chores and the homework are done. At seven he can't be expected to share your love of aviation any more than you could share his love of playing Tony Halk Pro Skateboarder on an X-Box.
Don't be as ridgid as your Dad was now

Ripsnort · « **Reply #22 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:31:47 PM »

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Originally posted by hyena426
well,,i dont think you should take away all games,,,i had a atari,,and nitendo growing up by the time i was 6 years old..im 28 now,,and all i do now is play aces high,,,and go out and ride moto dirt bikes ,,play football,,hike,,,go to the shootin range,,,,i dont think games affected me,,or turned me into a lazy bum,,,i dont think kids should be restricted from games,,just restricted from there time playing them,,and dont let them play adult games till there old anuff

what you will do ,,is turn him into a game addict,,he will go over to freinds house play there games,,,and wont be able to stop because he dont got any of his own,,i got a freind<~~good example,,,his parents didnt let him watch tv as a kid,,,,and when he comes over to my house,,,his eyes are glued on it ,,and you cant even get his attetion hardly with out hitting him on the head,,because its like a kid looking at somthing for his first time,lol,,,depriving him of the tv,,turned him into a tv zombie!!

i think you should give them games,,but just dont let them play them all day,,make them go out side and play

Well, with all due respect, my 7 yr. old has better punctuation when typing on the computer than you! LOL!

lazs2 · « **Reply #23 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:32:13 PM »

rip... hate to break it to you but I don't think your kids will quite see the distinction between your "sim" and a game.

hell man... you even went to a convention of the damn geeks... I have the pictures!

Still... I would be more worried that they might carpet their garage when they get their own home.

you should probly be horsewhipped but then... that's just my opinion...
lazs

Ripsnort · « **Reply #24 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:34:02 PM »

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Originally posted by Airhead
sims? games? You say tomato, I say tomatoe....

Rip, is this the same kid that shot me down in the H2H arena several times?

Do you have a time frame for when you think he'll be old enough for an X-Box, or is it forever banned (omg, hot button keyword) from your home? I know you're teaching him responsibility with fishing gear, firearms and chores around the house, and I know you love your boys and you're a good father, but with all due respect a little compromise on your rules might not be a bad thing...anyway it gives you a bit of leverage to ensure the chores and the homework are done. At seven he can't be expected to share your love of aviation any more than you could share his love of playing Tony Halk Pro Skateboarder on an X-Box.
Don't be as ridgid as your Dad was now

Very good input, I'm not sure...I'm sitting on the fence with this question...should I let him have one? I think not yet...but am pondering it...I want them to find enjoyment in other things first, then maybe..

Ripsnort · « **Reply #25 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:36:00 PM »

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Originally posted by lazs2
rip... hate to break it to you but I don't think your kids will quite see the distinction between your "sim" and a game.

hell man... you even went to a convention of the damn geeks... I have the pictures!

Still... I would be more worried that they might carpet their garage when they get their own home.

you should probly be horsewhipped but then... that's just my opinion...
lazs

I suppose they don't see the distinction, but again, they're allowed "simulators"...tanks, boats, whatever, just no "role-playing" or fantasy games on their computer. You don't check out historical books in a library because you played "Frogger" or "Brain-rot-game-here" but you do when you fly aircraft!

LOL at the rest of the post.

Tumor · « **Reply #26 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:37:31 PM »

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Originally posted by SaburoS
Hope they don't see you playing on your adult video game (the computer) playing AH. A parent's got to walk the talk to have credibility and respect from their kids. It's when they play their video games and how long that could be bad or good. If your kids are usually good get them a video game machine (check out the games then buy the machine) but have certain iron clad rules like no playing if their homework isn't done (that homework better get good feedback from their teachers). No plying video games on school nights. Only 1 hour (choose your time limit and stick to it) or so at a time/per day.

I agree except for one thing... IMO "Do as I say, not as I do" is perfectly acceptable in the parent/child relationship. IE: I have earned the right to walk my walk... this is a point I regularly make clear to my children.... this does not mean if my kid goes out mowing lawns for a summer and buys his own playstation, he gets to sit around the house for days on end playing games. He is the child, I am the parent... what I say goes, no argument. I've got one who turns 18 next month... rules are modified on his birthday to a great degree, however they will be followed or his path will lead out the front door. Everything is relative when it comes to raising kids.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #27 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:37:35 PM »

Airhead, yes, same one, but granted, he's played flight sims since age 3. A 4 year veteran he is

hyena426 · « **Reply #28 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:37:44 PM »

i dont type like that because i dont know how too type right,,i type like this because its my own style of crap to irritate people who are too stuck on typing:)

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Well, with all due respect, my 7 yr. old has better punctuation when typing on the computer than you!

how can that be if you dont let them play on the computer in the first place? lol

Ripsnort · « **Reply #29 on:** January 30, 2003, 02:39:12 PM »

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Originally posted by hyena426
i dont type like that because i dont know any better,,i type like this because its my own style of crap to irritate people who are too stuck on typing:) how can that be if you dont let them play on the computer in the first place?,,lol

No no, they have computer time! Just no Xbox or any of that crap. Was just digging on ya.