I normally I have my external sounds cranked to 100% Iv got alot of the others down around 50%. I turn up my volume to where I can hear the VOX clearly, Then I adjust my own engine down to nice level where I can still get the feeling of flight, yet its not driving me nutz.
The External sounds are great when your in a dogfight, I hear the enemy louder than I might in real life, but it adds to the drama like in a movie.
I couple times Iv been saying hello to folks flying along, being my good natured self, when some enemy sneaks up on me.
I then am clued in by the sound that someone is closing on my six, and I check and its an enemy. I then attempt to break and throw off his shot. The problem is, by the time I do that... He has already killed me.
The distance you can tell someone is coming is really pretty small.
Perhaps the guys you were sneaking up on.. actually knew you were there and waited till you closed to break?
Try Commanding an operation from the bridge of a CV and using vox. Its enough to make you nuts if cant turn down the exteral engine sounds.
HTC has given us some great tools to help make the game playable. I dont fault anyone for using them.