Author Topic: Marriage and sex (Read 837 times)

StSanta · « **on:** July 26, 2003, 06:27:04 AM »

A pal of mine is getting married soon, so naturally lots of jokes about 'you're about to only get laid once a month'.

Statistically it is true that married couples have less sex per month than does unmarried couples. It's also quite logical that attraction or novelty wears off after some time. Time itself usually has an effect on physical appearance and might also be a factor. Then there's having kids. For one it takes up lots of time an energy, leaving at least one of the spouses tired. There's also some talk about biological changes either due to aging or having children.

And of course the 'am married now. She/he cannot just walk away so I'm less likely to lose him/her' argument.

Personally I'd marry only for legal reasons but that's another matter. I've seen some documentary on Discovery where they asserted that they had stats showing decrease in sex after marriage. They dinnae compare it to unmarried couples who'd been together the same time so to me it's inconclusive.

So you married chaps; shred some light on this issue? My pal is scared enough of the marriage thing as it is. It'd be great to ahve some stats either way; either to scare him more (which would be fun) or to alleviate some of his fear (which would be the morally correct thing to do, but oh so boring).

_Schadenfreude_ · « **Reply #1 on:** July 26, 2003, 07:09:26 AM »

Tell your friend to start a family as soon as possible - then not having sex will be the least of his problems.

Eagler · « **Reply #2 on:** July 26, 2003, 07:16:22 AM »

marriage didn't slow us down - mother nature and children did

Eagler · « **Reply #3 on:** July 26, 2003, 07:17:56 AM »

then again StSanta - how many times ARE you going to give it to him

congrats - when's the big day

GrimCO · « **Reply #4 on:** July 26, 2003, 08:39:31 AM »

Marriage hasn't slowed us down in the least. We have no children yet, and I'm quite sure that has something to do with it.
With kids, you have to be more discreet about it. I foresee the demise of romping around the house naked and doing it on the couch, etc... when the kids come along.

Other than that, we lived together for four years before marriage, and have been married for four years. So far, no change in the sex life.

StSanta · « **Reply #5 on:** July 26, 2003, 09:50:39 AM »

Eagler, heh, big day for him not for me, fortunately

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Three weeks from now.

I hope he knows what he's doing. His girlfriend positively hates me and doesn't bother hiding it whenever we meet, so I haven't seen that much to my pal for the last year. But he loves her and I reckon it's just a natural thing - when someone gets a gf the first the gf does is make a list outta good vs bad friends and try to steer the poor soul away from the 'bad' ones. Once married there's no steering away - the contact is cut thanks to the extra leverage of marriage.

Dunno what I did to make her so angry. Disliked me from the start, heh.

capt. apathy · « **Reply #6 on:** July 26, 2003, 11:22:47 AM »

marriage nor kids have slowed anything down in 19 years.

a couple very important rules (everyone I know who broke them paid with a drastic cut in sex)

1. unless you absolutly have no other options the kids should only sleep in your room until 6-8 weeks old. as long as you don't sleep with the tv/radio playing you will hear the kid from the next room if they wake up in the night.

2. kids are never allowed to sleep in your bed. actually nobody else should ever sleep in your bed (unless your into that sort of thing I guess), you should always have at least that for just the 2 of you.

3. kids should begin to be taught to always knock and wait for a reply before entering your room, from the moment they can move under their own power.

hazed- · « **Reply #7 on:** July 26, 2003, 11:32:09 AM »

A guy who is paralysed from the waiste down is called a 'paraplegic' right?

so why is a woman paralysed from the waiste down called 'Married' ?

hehehe I love that old joke

Gremlin · « **Reply #8 on:** July 26, 2003, 11:48:02 AM »

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Originally posted by StSanta
Dunno what I did to make her so angry. Disliked me from the start, heh.

hehe, mebbe its your grossenarsch:) How you been ya old cherrypicker? Haven't seen you in the arenas in sooo long:)
Come back soon buddy, i need to pad my score:D

SaburoS · « **Reply #9 on:** July 26, 2003, 02:33:47 PM »

Who says my sex life slowed down once I got married?

I still have sex five times a week.

Oh wait a minute, does it have to be with my wife each time?

Never mind.

Just kidding

Mark Luper · « **Reply #10 on:** July 26, 2003, 08:25:16 PM »

StSanta,
The first thing your friend needs to realize is that sex is not what holds a marriage together. It is just icing on the cake. If sex is all there is between them the marriage won't last very long.

I have been blessed with a life partner of 37 years (this comming Dec.) who first of all was my best friend. We do things together and enjoy life as it comes...together. We have always maintained the utmost respect and regard for each other and we never part without having first made sure all questions are answered.

Sex is great, but I think it is highly overrated. It should never be the foundation on which a marriage is based. Time takes it's toll on all of us and "frequency" does diminish but if the foundation of a marriage is set in the concrete of friendship, mutual respect, and admiration it will last forever.

loser · « **Reply #11 on:** July 26, 2003, 10:24:14 PM »

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Originally posted by Mark Luper
StSanta,
The first thing your friend needs to realize is that sex is not what holds a marriage together. It is just icing on the cake. If sex is all there is between them the marriage won't last very long.

I have been blessed with a life partner of 37 years (this comming Dec.) who first of all was my best friend. We do things together and enjoy life as it comes...together. We have always maintained the utmost respect and regard for each other and we never part without having first made sure all questions are answered.

Sex is great, but I think it is highly overrated. It should never be the foundation on which a marriage is based. Time takes it's toll on all of us and "frequency" does diminish but if the foundation of a marriage is set in the concrete of friendship, mutual respect, and admiration it will last forever.

WTG Mark AT, in this day and age you are a part of the minority. Plus words to live by.

wklink · « **Reply #12 on:** July 26, 2003, 10:36:40 PM »

It depends on how you look at things.

You tend to lose frequency (I:E four or five times a week) but you gain consistency (I:E no long three or four month stretches between g/friends).

It all evens out in the long run I think. I don't get 'it' as much as I did when I was dating my wife but then again, I don't have to go looking for a date either.

Everyone is right though, kids do crimp your sex life. Nothing slows the old libido down like having a 6 year old start jumping on your bed just as you start to begin the old snuggle.

I swear, the kid is psychic sometimes.

Gixer · « **Reply #13 on:** July 27, 2003, 03:46:47 AM »

Why do you think girls always smile when they are walking up the aisle?

Because they know they have given their last blowjob!

...-Gixer
-Hells Angels-

Scootter · « **Reply #14 on:** July 27, 2003, 07:32:02 AM »

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Originally posted by Gixer
Why do you think girls always smile when they are walking up the aisle?

Because they know they have given their last blowjob!

...-Gixer
-Hells Angels-

~~Oh that is so untrue!!;)~~