Originally posted by fd ski
With love and all Udie, one day you will lose your job, one way or the other. Downsizing or a boss that doesn't like you. Then you'll realize that life != work. While I don't wish you bad, i hope you'll understand that soon. Maybe the other issues would clear up as well. Hmm I don't quite get your meaning here. I've lost jobs before for both the reasons you listed, and more

I remember the recession of the 80's too. When I turned 16 I went to go get a job bagging groceries at Randall's. They turned me away because they had 40 year old dudes with college degrees bagging ans stocking. I couldn't find a job (other than fast food) until I was 18 or 19 years old, and I got that from a friend who had started his own silk screening business.
I don't have too many other isues right now

Thankfully I got most of my mental BS cleared up when I went to rehab last December and got off all those damn phsycotropic meds the shrink had me on.
Right now with my present financial state (ok there's a big isue

) my job and my ability to work is all I have going for me. I get paid well for a draftsman, more than any other draftsman I have ever met. The down side to that is I don't expect much more money out of this career. So last week I bit the bullet. I called an old boss and got some contract work from him. So now I'll work my 40 hours at work plus (hopefully) another 10 or so at home. The 10 or so at home will net me almost the same money my real job does

minus Uncle Sam's extortion. It's freaking absolutely awesome that I have the ability/right/will to do this. I love it. Because with this attitude I can make myself rich with my own 2 hands. This I know because I watched my father do it over the past 15 years. From zero (actually negative about $40k) to worth a million on paper and 1/2 that in liquid assets. All by his own 2 hands. Because he worked his butt off. He took his first vacation in 30 years 2 weeks ago. We went fishing for a weekend.
Work defines who you are in States. It's sad but true. Everything is tied into it. Most people elsewhere treat work as something that suplements and allows you to enjoy life. You here are lead to believe that if you enjoy work - you enjoy life. Hmm I agree and disagree with you here. Work definitely defines who you are here. Lack of work does too (bums) Work to me is something that has to be done. The first 10 years of my career I hated this. Now I've changed some. I look at work as something I can do to make myself a better person. To further myself materially and as something that I sometimes enjoy now. I do know that the times that I enjoy my work I seem to be happier in life. The times that I hate my job I'm usually depressed in life. Now I don't know if the depression caused the hatred of the job or the otherway around. But that's been my experience.
Stroll down to Florida sometimes, you'll see 80 year old frail ladies in Stop and Shop bagging groceries. They have more jewlery hanging off them then you can afford - but they take a 5$ /h job, because without it - they don't know who they are. It's a sad sad way to waste your life. Double edge sword there. Was she working because she wanted to or because she has to? If she wanted to do it, how can you say she's wasting her life if it's something she likes/wants to do? If she HAS to work, then yes I agree that's a waste. I look at my step-grandfather. He's 85 years old. he retired 20 years ago. He works out in his field everyday. I think it's what's kept him alive. He has something to do. He enjoys it. He hates the winter because he has to sit idle.
I'm not advocating treating your workplace with disresepect and being a lazy s..t - don't assume the other extreeme. But work and balance can be balanced to provide you with meaningful career and proper personal life. Well my life/work ballance goal is to retire by the time I'm 50-55 60 at the latest. Then I will murder and eat many many many thousands of fish
