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General Forums => Aces High General Discussion => Topic started by: GrnEagle Jr on January 30, 2010, 11:33:58 AM
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I know many of you guys hate me for my attitude on the boards which I'm sorry for I'm going to be changing my behavior around the community of aces high because i don't want to ruin the rep that my dad has and i would like to have a good rep of my own so i hope all you guys can forgive me so i can fly aces high without getting in fights with some of you guys well sorry for my past behavior and i hope willing to forgive me <<S>>
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You should take a break from posting.
Let all the bullies move on to new targets.
Then you can come back with your new and improved attitude.
:salute
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yea i may even take a break from aces high
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From my experience, those who admit they've had problems have managed to overcome them. Keep at it and you will earn the respect of multiple friends.
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:salute
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your already starting the right way, you know you did wrong and your going to fix it <S>
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But what about your drug problem? Have you addressed that?
Seems like a more important issue.
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wrongway
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Good move GrnEglJr. That's what I meant about "Time to Man up". Keep going the way you're going and you'll be fine. You'll notice that when you start getting one thing fixed, more and more things will fall into place. Keep it up, we'll see you in the skies. :salute
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<S>, hope to keep flying with you sir :cheers:.
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yes i have been out of aces high for 3 days now trying to overcome my handicap which is adhd (attention deficits hyperactive disorder) i also have an anger problem so i been trying to relax and overcome my anger problem and try to fix all my problems on the board and in the game with people. So thanks <<S>>
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Don't try to fix everything all at once, you'll get more turned around then ever. Look at it like we do our bombing runs, 1 target at a time = 1 problem at a time. As for anger, I'm Irish and I inherited the full blown Anderson rage. I know how it can be to try to control something that emotionally powerful, only to end up losing it anyways. And how it is when you tear yourself up and punish yourself after losing your temper. My father helped me, he put a rifle in my hands. He taught me long range shooting. I'm not saying grab a gun and start shooting everything up. Find something that let's you focus on 1 moment in time. 1 single instant where the winds die down, you're heart beat is at it's low point, and you've expelled half your breath and take the shot. I used to lay there for 20 minutes just waiting for it. It's almost like meditation. You'll learn patience. Find something that you can focus on,and you'll be fine.
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Good move . That's what I meant about "Time to Man up".
Whew, I thought you were talking about the big girl in the corner. :D
Maybe turn off ch 200 and speak into mic only when spoken to, if not talking to a friend. JMO
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Don't try to fix everything all at once, you'll get more turned around then ever. Look at it like we do our bombing runs, 1 target at a time = 1 problem at a time. As for anger, I'm Irish and I inherited the full blown Anderson rage. I know how it can be to try to control something that emotionally powerful, only to end up losing it anyways. And how it is when you tear yourself up and punish yourself after losing your temper. My father helped me, he put a rifle in my hands. He taught me long range shooting. I'm not saying grab a gun and start shooting everything up. Find something that let's you focus on 1 moment in time. 1 single instant where the winds die down, you're heart beat is at it's low point, and you've expelled half your breath and take the shot. I used to lay there for 20 minutes just waiting for it. It's almost like meditation. You'll learn patience. Find something that you can focus on,and you'll be fine.
I know that exact feeling ..... it's almost a trance like state. Then the trigger breaks and almost scares you . heheh Makes me want to go do some shooting errrr.....I hate winter sometimes .
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thanks for the advice guys i really appreciate it
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and i would like to have a good rep of my own
Well look what you just got. A better reputation, just by saying you made a mistake. <<S>>
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Certainly a big step in the right direction.
Walk softly, let your actions speak for you.
If your head is in the right place they'll say more than you ever could.
Your young, so always, listen much, speak little.
Ok to have an opinion when asked, but you don't need to tell everyone what it is without being asked.
Pick out a few people, 2 -3, who have the respect of the entire community.
Watch how they do it, watch how they interact. Learn from them. See what they do in a given situation.
Then emulate them.
Its hard sometimes not to be a little yapping dog, your excited. It's easy to forget and just start yapping away.
But those yappers are never respected and are seldom listened to.
But the dog that sits back, listens to all that is said. Then calmly sums up in a very few words the crux of the subject.
Perhaps indicating why he would chose one over the other, and sits back down, he is both listened to, and respected.
Whats more he will often be followed.
Learn to lead from example.
All of it takes time, patience, persistence, and perseverance.
The 3 P's should be your friend, but like any friendship, they have to be cultivated, practiced.
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Hey kid, <S> Look me up in the blue arena, knights. Come wing with me a few flights. It will be fun.
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Remember respect is earned not given. Treat other people as you want to be treated and it WILL happen. You will have the random jerk who won't follow that but as long as you know you did the right thing it won't bother you as much. Nothing cheeses off a jerk like showering them with kindness.
:salute
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Ghosth gave you some good advice. Your on the right track. :aok
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I know that exact feeling ..... it's almost a trance like state. Then the trigger breaks and almost scares you . heheh Makes me want to go do some shooting errrr.....I hate winter sometimes .
What's worse is when that ABSOLUTE, Perfect moment of eternity, and all you hear is *click*
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i also have an anger problem so i been trying to relax and overcome my anger problem
An absoulutly great way to get rid of built up anger is to get a few friends together and fight/ box each other for fun.
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Hi GrnEagle Jr !
I dinīt know what you did to apologize.
All I know is mistakes are an important part of any learning proccess.
Nobody is perfect.. :aok :salute
Mutley
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I know many of you guys hate me for my attitude on the boards which I'm sorry for I'm going to be changing my behavior around the community of aces high because i don't want to ruin the rep that my dad has and i would like to have a good rep of my own so i hope all you guys can forgive me so i can fly aces high without getting in fights with some of you guys well sorry for my past behavior and i hope willing to forgive me <<S>>
Alot of peeps owe you an apology for picking on ya the way they have. They see that you're a kid and give ya hell just because they can. Sure, you've started some silly posts.....but we'll all guilty of that. :salute
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Hang in there GEJr. All this will pass. There's very few people who haven't screwed up on this BBS at one point or another.
It's human nature to make mistakes. It's also human nature to learn from them. The BBS cool crowd changes about every six months to a year. Most of them are never as cool as they think they are. Don't worry so much about being popular on the BBS worry about enjoying the sim. Happy Landings. :aok
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An absoulutly great way to get rid of built up anger is to get a few friends together and fight/ box each other for fun.
Absolutely. That might be your path Grn. Take a look at Karate or Judo. Ask BradMan about it, his kids are in. I have a friend that studies Karate and Bushido (Bushido is a code of honor, think samauris) and he one of the most collected persons I know.
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Ever think about football? or even lifting weights?
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I would like to apologize in advance. Just in case I feel the need to start a you HOed thread. :rolleyes:
You know me, I have to keep my ego in it's place. So again my apologies. :salute
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See Rules #2, #4, #6
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See Rules #2, #4, #6
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:salute GrnEglJr.
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<S> for choosing the right path! I'm a new/old dog, I was a squeaker growing up playing aw3. (I'm only 24 now)
listen to advice and ignore the people trying to pull you back down. Never forget the crawdad effect.
Everyone makes mistakes and its how we react, learn, and move forward from that defines us!
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:)
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What's worse is when that ABSOLUTE, Perfect moment of eternity, and all you hear is *click*
Been there lol.... sometimes on my AR, the bolt might be open just a fraction of an inch.... Errr
To the OP , Football was great for pent up frustration . You could go out and beat the crap out of others (and yourself) without getting in trouble. Even most practices were full contact so it was great.
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Been there lol.... sometimes on my AR, the bolt might be open just a fraction of an inch.... Errr
To the OP , Football was great for pent up frustration . You could go out and beat the crap out of others (and yourself) without getting in trouble. Even most practices were full contact so it was great.
Also, hockey! :aok
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Very mature apology. :salute Don't give anyone the power to bait you, & then let it get to you. :aok
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So you're a girl? Who's Katie?
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Had an english teacher once tell me that " the first step in growing up is taking responsibility for your actions". Not sure what you did, but always found u to be a good guy in game. WTG taking that step sir
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Mbailey
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<S> for choosing the right path! I'm a new/old dog, I was a squeaker growing up playing aw3. (I'm only 24 now)
listen to advice and ignore the people trying to pull you back down. Never forget the crawdad effect.
Everyone makes mistakes and its how we react, learn, and move forward from that defines us!
Don't be talking bad about crawfish lol. <S> Eagle you are on the right track.
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Hehe nothing bad about crawfish! Just they don't like to see friends escape capture! :neener:
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+1 :aok
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It's great to see that a younger player is trying to figure this part of the community out. :salute
What I can't stand is all the people that take so much enjoyment of belittling a younger player when they make a mistake.
IMO they will learn by example, not by humiliation.
My .02
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It takes a man to fight .but a bigger man to apologise BIG <S>
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Well said. Talking about it is all good and fine but it does not get it done. Most folks won't believe it till they see it.
Good luck! I think you'll be successful.
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Jr. you're a lot bigger man than some in this forum! I had an anger problem when I was your age and had to get through it - I am sure that you will. Also, a friend of mine who has ADD overcame the disability and went on to become the most respected and successful businessman that I have ever met, I am sure you can do the same. When you are ready to come back you can fly with me anytime! :salute
ttflier
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Thanks everyone i appreciate it.
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Jr. you're a lot bigger man than some in this forum! I had an anger problem when I was your age and had to get through it - I am sure that you will. Also, a friend of mine who has ADD overcame the disability and went on to become the most respected and successful businessman that I have ever met, I am sure you can do the same. When you are ready to come back you can fly with me anytime! :salute
ttflier
ADHD isn't a disability. :rolleyes: I think my hampster was ADD. It ran for hours on it's wheel. Yet never went anywhere. again :rolleyes:
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ADHD isn't a disability. :rolleyes:
Not a legitimate one, that's right.
But ADD can still totally cripple one persons life. Depending on severity and how it's trated (if at all), it can be a huge, almost daunting task to overcome it. (grammar?)
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Not a legitimate one, that's right.
But ADD can still totally cripple one persons life. Depending on severity and how it's trated (if at all), it can be a huge, almost daunting task to overcome it. (grammar? ;))
You reading that off of some pamphlet or something. Did I spell something wrong again? I blame my ADD. :D
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You reading that off of some pamphlet or something.
I have 1st hand experience, no need to read off some "pamphlets".
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i think u oughta take AH community off the pedestal. just dont post any more hot pics of ur mom an youll be alright.
but what im sayin is too often is someone gonna misinterpret somethin u say in these forums an turn it bak on u, unless u word it perfectly. so why even bother with apologies :D
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(http://catholicdiscussion.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/john_wayne29.jpg)
Never apologize.....sign of weakness
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It takes a man to sit there and talk crap but it takes a stronger person to apoligys
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It takes a man to sit there and talk crap but it takes a stronger person to apoligys
something like that. :P
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Nicely said GrnJR, now no more sneaking downstairs to check where the DHBG are on your Dad's screen ;) :salute
Steely
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No more of that because i'm back to bishops for good now
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Not a legitimate one, that's right.
But ADD can still totally cripple one persons life. Depending on severity and how it's trated (if at all), it can be a huge, almost daunting task to overcome it. (grammar?)
Big time.
Ooh, cookies!
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Certainly a big step in the right direction.
Walk softly, let your actions speak for you.
If your head is in the right place they'll say more than you ever could.
Your young, so always, listen much, speak little.
Ok to have an opinion when asked, but you don't need to tell everyone what it is without being asked.
Pick out a few people, 2 -3, who have the respect of the entire community.
Watch how they do it, watch how they interact. Learn from them. See what they do in a given situation.
Then emulate them.
Its hard sometimes not to be a little yapping dog, your excited. It's easy to forget and just start yapping away.
But those yappers are never respected and are seldom listened to.
But the dog that sits back, listens to all that is said. Then calmly sums up in a very few words the crux of the subject.
Perhaps indicating why he would chose one over the other, and sits back down, he is both listened to, and respected.
Whats more he will often be followed.
Learn to lead from example.
All of it takes time, patience, persistence, and perseverance.
The 3 P's should be your friend, but like any friendship, they have to be cultivated, practiced.
The last thing ghosth said was our run in . I hope you get where you want to be . :salute
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THE JETS SUCK!! plain as that admit that. GO PATRIOTS
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Tom Brady calls Joe Nameth "daddy" :D
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I know many of you guys hate me for my attitude on the boards which I'm sorry for I'm going to be changing my behavior around the community of aces high because i don't want to ruin the rep that my dad has and i would like to have a good rep of my own so i hope all you guys can forgive me so i can fly aces high without getting in fights with some of you guys well sorry for my past behavior and i hope willing to forgive me <<S>>
Jr,
Take your time, don't be in a hurry. Try to read what you write and ask yourself "what will the reader get out of this" before you post. I am highlighting some things that I think is more important in all of it and want to comment on them.
First of all, this is a good start to earning some recognition back from the community. Most importantly, for yourself. However:
*When you say that "many of you guys hate me", that's not true by any sense of the word.
You lost some credibility, but I assure you that nobody hates you. Besides, your concern should not be what the AH community thinks and this surely is not a popularity contest.
You need to address not only the virtual world but the Real world and what your doing there. When you fix what is going on there, this will automatically fix itself here and the communtiy will see that in your behavior.
If you try to put up a smoke screen, its like the Tank smoke in this game,,, It will never work.
You said: "changing my behavior around the community of aces high"
You need to rethink this one. Life is not about AH.
If your "real" life behavior is even close to your behavior on the BBS, you have some work to do(from what I understand its not far off).
Your life does not revolve around this game.
Your Family should be priority and doing what is right for your parents and yourself and staying out of trouble in real life, not the AH community.
You said: "i don't want to ruin the rep that my dad has".
Your Dad is a good man. You are your own man and your actions are not going to affect his good standings here for those of us that know him. Your social behavior here on these boards will affect your reputation, not his(as in real life as well). I have a great amount of respect for your Father. I can assure you from my life experience that when I was growing up, the worse thing that I could ever have done to my parents was to disrespect them and most importantly DISSAPOINT them with my actions. Did both, and its the worse feeling you will ever have. You can earn it back, but you can never take those moments back and will be with you forever.
You said: "You would like to have a good rep of your own".
Hmm. Again your concern is with this game.
You are judged by your actions here and in real life as well.
You cant come here and pretend your a saint when your acting as a devil at home.
But with change you will EARN the respect of the community here and in your real life community, but don't expect any overnight changes in peoples expectations of you.
You said: "sorry for my past behavior and i hope willing to forgive me".
This is the most important thing you have said and the start to making things right. Apply this by not only here in the BBS, but you should say this to some "REAL LIFE" people that care more than anything in the world for you that you see everyday.
When you can "Man-up" and recognize that your behavior is not/has not been acceptable here but most importantly in "REAL LIFE" you will have indeed earned respect from not only the AH community but more importantly the people that matter the most-Your Family.
Good luck,
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who is his Dad again?
I forget.
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He's my Skipper...................... :airplane:
who is his Dad again?
I forget.
If you didn't know! :rock
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(Refering to DadsGuns)
I can be a kind loving guy in real life. But when i get mad i will be like i am in Aces High (because of my anger problem) therefore i'm trying to get rid of that anger problem in Aces High and Real Life but i do want to be respected in Aces High when i do play it and yes i know Family, Friends and Real Life comes before Aces High.
(refering to Greens)
Jets dont suck they arent that good although this year the Jets were amazing we beat the Pats 1-2 times we made it all the way to the AFC championship
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Jr. Your apology is accepted, as far as I am concerned. You need to remember that it only takes one "OH SHOOT" to mess up ten "ATA BOY'S". We as a comunity will, acknowledge that you are trying to change your outlook and the way we look at you, but we cant forget the way you have acted. IT will eventually even out and you will be respected. IT is just human nature to be sceptical. Things that I did when I was young and dumb still to this day come back to haunt me, it is something that you have to learn to live with. Remember that your real life people are going to look at it the same way. I am not trying to tell you to give up and not try to improve, but it is going to take for people to accept, and believe that you are trying to change. Do not give up, stick with it. I myself was wandering why your father would let you act the way you did, and I am sure that there were others that were thinking the same thing. IT is Hard being the son of someone that is highly respected, I know I have been there, and still am. I am 36 years old and am still caught in my dads shadow in the aviation community, it does have its advantages, but it is hard to make a name for yourself. Do not let it get you down charge forward and never give up. Always remember that when life puts a wall in front of a person, the determaned man goes over it, the smart man figures a way around it, and the heavy equipment operator takes the wall down and loads it out. Best of luck to you, happy landings and remember to lock the tailwheel on landing.
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Apologize for what? :huh If memory serves correctly, there are plenty of "long time" peeps that have "plenty O attitude"! If you are not being personaly offensive than WTF? Tis just a game. There is far worse being said along the scrimmage line of a football game I assure you :aok If your attitude is more than your emotional state can handle "so be it" if not, then taunt away!!! it is part and parcel of the game! :aok
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Umm...Alright, ill just say it. I have ADD, and while I dont exactly know the severity of mine and I am medicated for it I lead a normal (well, as normal as a cyber fighter pilot will let ya) life.
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Just realized what you were asking, sorry. His Pop is a total Dickweed....... :D
He's my Skipper...................... :airplane:
who is his Dad again?
I forget.
If you didn't know! :rock
Jr.......... You're a good kid, and willing to learn...... Remember, the internet is a place where all kinds of people are, some good, some bad, never take anything personal. :salute
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Any one else feel warm and fuzzy inside after reading this thread? :lol
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Any one else feel warm and fuzzy inside after reading this thread? :lol
(http://www.tiglath.org/yahoo/smiles/6.gif)
ack-ack
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(http://www.tiglath.org/yahoo/smiles/6.gif)
ack-ack
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No (http://www.tiglath.org/yahoo/smiles/6.gif) for ack-ack? I thought you were feeling all warm and fuzzy inside?
ack-ack
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(Refering to DadsGuns)
I can be a kind loving guy in real life. But when i get mad i will be like i am in Aces High (because of my anger problem) therefore i'm trying to get rid of that anger problem in Aces High and Real Life but i do want to be respected
(Talk to me about anger I think I can help)
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I'll hug the Ack Ack.......... But you better not be touchy feely!
No for ack-ack? I thought you were feeling all warm and fuzzy inside?
ack-ack
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I'll hug the Ack Ack.......... But you better not be touchy feely!
Hehe... ack hugger
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No (http://www.tiglath.org/yahoo/smiles/6.gif) for ack-ack? I thought you were feeling all warm and fuzzy inside?
ack-ack
I only (http://www.tiglath.org/yahoo/smiles/6.gif) the ack. Not the ack ack. I am too old for that. :D
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(Refering to DadsGuns)
I can be a kind loving guy in real life. But when i get mad i will be like i am in Aces High (because of my anger problem) therefore i'm trying to get rid of that anger problem in Aces High and Real Life but i do want to be respected in Aces High when i do play it and yes i know Family, Friends and Real Life comes before Aces High.
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here is the problem, you dont play vs computer KI, you play vs other humans. So in my opinion AH is RL! Thats why we all should act like we normaly do!
Playing an MMO like AH2 is means you're in a player context, so all buffer flooding or bad behavoir fall back on you on time again and ppl remind those stuff!
The best experience is joining a con and meet other players! after such a con, you will react so much more smarter and much more calm down.
On my mind AH2 is something like E Sports, you play with other humans. Focused on this fact let you act in an more human way, because behind each other plane is a human player.
Here is the key to be more respected, being part of a squadron may help you to follow a code of conduct. Maybe you should find a good squad and having fun hanging around with some good squadmates.
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Don't be talking bad about crawfish lol. <S> Eagle you are on the right track.
They sure are good with a little cajun spice, sausage, and potatoes. :x