Help with a Depression Victim.

[Anodizer]

As my grandfather told me long ago...."Nicky, you must think with the proper head..."

Especially in a situation like this, you definitely must think with the proper head..
You are 14, you have no experience in this area (and if you did, you need help as well)....
Doesn't she have other friends?  Why is she all of the sudden telling you and you just met her?
Sounds like a head case....  If you're that concerned, contact the authorities or an adult you trust..
There's really not much you can do besides give her moral support..  And be sure you're doing all this for the right reasons....

But my best advice would be just to walk in the other direction..

[Angus]

I myself took a depression test (online) some while back, and came out with a very bad score. I pretty much figured as well.
Not in danger of eating the barrel though, I had to use all I have to avoid getting killed at one moment in my life (14 years ago) and that tought me that I want to live.
The things that keep me going are love (yep, I was lucky with the spouse), my interests, and plenty to do (if you're busy enough, especially with something that you have some interest in!)
How old is she anyway?

[zack1234]

RUN

Does she have lots of cash? If not RUN

[Xasthur]

Depression is an easily discounted affliction.

Yet it affects many and is not always easy to recognise.

The person who is truly depressed is the person you least suspect.

The ones who display their 'depression' openly are the ones who are often at little risk of suicide.

It's the quiet ones you need to look out for.

Being 'depressed' about terrible things that have happened in your life is one thing....

Waking up and hating the fact that you're still alive for no good reason at all is completely different.

How do you fix that? What is the problem when there is nothing wrong?

[Babalonian]

Well I've only gotten through half of this thread before not desireing to continue reading the rest.  It disgusts me how many people here don't understand that the reason she's opened up this much to Oogly is because he may be one of if not the only person she feels she can trust.

Oogly, I respect your ambitions here to help her, but I agree with some people here that you shouldn't persue a romantic relationship with her, especially if she won't listen to you when you're trying ot help and blackmails you to leave it be "or she'll stab herself".

It sounds like she is very young and you too are very young.  I'm willing to bet you both are in either High School or College together.  Your school, by law, has programs at no to minimal cost to help provide a means for her to get confidential help.  Go ahead and on your own begin the process of finding a professional (shrink) that is right for this sitaution via the resources available to you and her, likely the shrink you get in touch with will encourage you to be there for the first couple of sessions, and you should oblige..  Then you need to bring this up with her again, sincerely and calmly.  She will likely make the same or similar blackmail threat without thinking twice about it.  You need to point out that those type of threats is why you are so concerned for her well being, that it was a yes or no question, and look at the answer she gave...  But primarily, use her trust in you to persuade her that this is confidential and the best thing for her you feel, but the shrink you get in touch with will assist in how to properly use her trust in you to then go together and see the shrink.

[TheAce]

RUN

 

[1pLUs44]

Last year, I was in a friendship with a girl like that, but it was more or less "my boyfriend dumped me! I'm going to kill myself" and what not. I was always like "you got so much to live for!" and all the sweet talk.

And after about 10 times, it finally hit me that she wasn't going to do it, so, the next time, I just said "Do it then, if you're greedy enough to talk only about your problems to everyone else, go ahead. Apparently the world is better off without you if you say so" and I cut all communications with her..
Saw her yesterday, she's doing fine.

I have absolutely NO clue what will happen with you and this girl, but she was kind of in the same boat, she had been raped by her step dad, IIRC, or so she said, and she had depression problems. A crazy bellybutton sister, and a mean momma didn't help much at all, but I gave her a reason to live, for me to be wrong. And surprisingly, I'm actually kind of friends with her again. And she's doing fine. Sis is out of the house, and I think she lives with her dad now.

And that girl right there (Linsay) was pretty out of her mind.

If you can piss her off, and give her a reason to live, give it a try, if not, and it's too hopeless, I'd just try being nice for her, and being the brother she never had. If she really isn't like Linsay, where it just more or less turned into greed for attention, then, hopefully you can work it out.

Only time I can sorta relate. And I did right I guess. Kind of sad though, she has the scars on her wrist that'll last the rest of her life.

I really hope I'm not telling you to do the wrong thing, but I was about your age when this happened to me.

[zoozoo]

Last year, I was in a friendship with a girl like that, but it was more or less "my boyfriend dumped me! I'm going to kill myself" and what not. I was always like "you got so much to live for!" and all the sweet talk.

And after about 10 times, it finally hit me that she wasn't going to do it, so, the next time, I just said "Do it then, if you're greedy enough to talk only about your problems to everyone else, go ahead. Apparently the world is better off without you if you say so" and I cut all communications with her..
Saw her yesterday, she's doing fine.

I have absolutely NO clue what will happen with you and this girl, but she was kind of in the same boat, she had been raped by her step dad, IIRC, or so she said, and she had depression problems. A crazy bellybutton sister, and a mean momma didn't help much at all, but I gave her a reason to live, for me to be wrong. And surprisingly, I'm actually kind of friends with her again. And she's doing fine. Sis is out of the house, and I think she lives with her dad now.

And that girl right there (Linsay) was pretty out of her mind.

If you can piss her off, and give her a reason to live, give it a try, if not, and it's too hopeless, I'd just try being nice for her, and being the brother she never had. If she really isn't like Linsay, where it just more or less turned into greed for attention, then, hopefully you can work it out.

Only time I can sorta relate. And I did right I guess. Kind of sad though, she has the scars on her wrist that'll last the rest of her life.

I really hope I'm not telling you to do the wrong thing, but I was about your age when this happened to me.

 

[Scherf]

Yep. It's just a hop, step and a jump from "If you tell the counsellor I'll stab myself," to "If you won't take my next dose of drama RIGHT NOW mister, I'll stab myself."

Leave her to the fargin pros before she pulls you down with her.