Grits,
I could write a book on how to deal with bad behaviors. I’m actually of the opinion that people who are capable of behaving in a reasonable way on a consistent basis are in the minority. We all have inbred instincts of fight or flight and the tendency to lash out when threatened was important in a primal environment. Reasonable behavior requires reasoning, this takes place in our cerebral cortex. The question is who’s in control the Hulk or David Banner. Like I said, I could write a book, there’s the first paragraph.
Life teaches us many lessons in human nature that we can use for good or bad. I have observed someone using their knowledge of human nature to elicit reactionary responses from someone less experienced. Not one to abide bullies, I used reason and simple truth to illuminate the shortcomings in their character.
In my business I have interns who work for free, they are greatly appreciated. I also have customers who come in every shape, size and disposition. My interns are instructed NEVER to engage a customer. That’s my job. If there is a complaint I ignore the form it comes in and try to determine if there is some substance to it. If there is abusiveness I deal with it calmly and decisively and never bicker. I find defensiveness abhorrent. If you are not wrong why be defensive, if you are wrong do something about it. Now to answer your questions:
What do you think of a couple of your Squaddies attitudes and the way they treat other people?
First, you need to be more specific, which couple, what attitudes. Attitude is such a big word it is almost worthless. There are initial attitudes, attitudes resulting from specific treatment, attitudes resulting from other attitudes. I often receive negative reactions from people because my attitude is: if you say your gonna do it, do it. I don’t suffer fools easily and believe in personal responsibility. Some find these attitudes to be very negative others find them quite reasonable. Attitude is a very subjective thing. Discussing attitude is always fruitless better to discuss behaviors, which brings me to your next question.
Do you think they behave in an appropriate manner towards others both in the arena and on the BBS?
Another very non-specific question and “appropriate” is a highly subjective term. I can tell you I have behaved inappropriately on occasion but believe I’m way above the curve. I believe everybody’s behavior in the game exists in a gray scale somewhere between Oldman and the guy who just got permanently booted. If I had to average all the behaviors of all my squadies according to my version of appropriate. I believe they would be significantly above average. I joined this thread discussing specific behaviors by specific people as they pertain to the game environment. If you have specific examples of bad behavior please enumerate them. If you have examples of abusive behavior or personal attacks that brings me to your next question.
How would you have responded their personal attacks if you had been the target?
This one’s easy. How do you react to personal attacks?
DON’T
Personal attacks make the attacker look bad. Besides HTC does not cotton to personal attacks or abusiveness. They can, will, and do deal with such behavior in a professional manner. In my business I’m the one who draws the lines not my interns. Take over the top behavior to them.
Edit:Here is an example of a response that demonstrates more about the attacker’s character and intellegence than the attackee’s:
storch
Since you have a self exile on yourself from CT, please extend it to the CT forum
Your babbling does nothing but harm the arena and since you longer partake (I do miss killing you over and over), your opinion is irrelevant
I don't have to extend an opinion, speaks for itself.
