wow...
I am not sure this can possibly be explained better than with pictures.
I sure will try once more.
In a 1 on 1 dogfight, there are actually 4 planes.
2 on your Front End (FrontEnd=you computer basically)
2 on your opponents Front End.
Because of internet lag, what you and your opponent see are slightly different things.
(fight someone, both film it, and watch the films)
On YOUR Front End both planes can collide, like you saw in the picture Bronk posted. The 2 planes on your FE rammed.
On your OPPONENTS Front End they did not collide, like you saw in the picture Bronk posted. The 2 planes on their FE missed.
In case you didn't understand, the pictures posted by bronk were from the same fight, but two diff. films. One from each pilot's Front End.
Just because on YOUR Front End you saw a collision, that does not mean your opponent saw one, just like in the pictures Bronk posted.
Your Front End = planes collide
Opponents Front End = planes miss by 100 feet.
So as you see, there is no "winning" of a collisions.
IF YOU HIT THEM, YOU WILL TAKE DAMAGE.
IF YOU DO NOT HIT THEM, YOU WILL NOT TAKE DAMAGE.
The only way to "win" a collision is to not collide.
If the plane you colllided with fly's off undamged, that's because THEY didn't see a collision. They avoided it. You didn't. THIER Front End didn't "see" a collision, only yours did.
The only way to "win" a collision is to not collide.
Quit flying into enemy planes.