Hadn't thought about any of this at all until the other night when I was rammed, got the message "so and so collided with you" in white. I lost a wing, he was undamaged and flew away.
I assumed the collider got the damage but it wasn't that case.
I could care less in the end because i always get a new plane, but it went against what I understood as to how things worked.
I did not see his guns firing so I don't believe he shot my wing off in the process of the ram.