Although its nice to be nice, and trying to be a good Samaritan is a worthy effort. Christianity is knowing that perfect adherence to Gods rules are essential, and we are deficient. It teaches that we are incapable of earning or deserving of Gods eternal goodness or salvation toward us, and that God alone provided what is necessary for our aid. How unfair is it to give someone what they deserve, if it yours to give. What if you have given everything good to someone, and they misused wasted and ignored how they were to handle what was given. Then come to you again and ask for more. To some God choses to forgive and give, others not. If you want specifics I could tell you where the bible lays it out. So to those astrology buff's, clue me in to the detailed specifics of the similarities to Christianity.
And that is where in my mind, man gets in the way of faith. The notion that some all powerful being is keeping score and sits in judgment of us just doesn't work for me. That's not my "father". As a parent, you don't give up on your children regardless of their mistakes. You are implying that God does. so you better be good or you won't get a cookie. It also implies that being a good person is for selfish reasons, because you hope the big guy might recognize it.
The best man I ever knew was my father and he died at 45. Did the good die young? Well I'm 48 now and I've done my best to be a good man too. So is my living punishment? Watching my children die is the most horrific thing anyone could go through. There is no greater punishment. I've known heaven already. It was my family. Nothing could be better then that. There is no reward greater then my wife and kids and I've lost half of that already. If there is a heaven, for me it would be my family together again. I don't need some great understanding. And if there is a hell, I've been there already.
I've had all the usual cliche's thrown at me both after my Dad died, a month before my son was born, and after my son and daughter died. They don't work. No God would plan to kill people. A loving father doesn't do that to 'teach lessons'. Outside of suicide, I don't have much choice but to keep going, so that beauty "God only gives you what you can handle" really doesn't work for me. I'm not a better man for having endured the last three years. There is no lesson in surviving. And if someone is going to tell me, my two kids had to die, so Cathy would save this one, the math is kind of lousy.
What I believe is that someday I'll see my kids again. If I didn't believe that, I don't know that I'd have kept going.
As for being a good person, that's a choice I make. I can't condemn others who don't live life the way I do. They too have a choice. I don't believe God would give us that ability and then condemn some folks for their choices.
Jeez I'm windy.