Once it starts shaking I throttle back and ride the shake. If you go too far and your controls.start to lock up cut the throttle and rudder over to get it side slipping. It will.slow pretty quick that way and you can get control back. If you want you can add the "trim nose up" button to your stick so that you can trim your nose up to try and flatten out your dive.
This is what I did. I rarely used flaps in AH. I abused the X-45/52 throttles as I was always on them in fights.