You have to choose to be nice. It is a lot easier to be mean. No matter how stupid you are, you can be mean. To be nice you must be at least smart enough to recognize what does not matter and ignore it. It's all absurdly easy to take umbrage to what someone else says, or does, and then one up them. Then he one ups you, you one up him, and so on and so on.
I see folks in this game that rather than go from throwing a spitball, to shooting a paperclip, to snapping with rubber bands...........well they escalate a bit more quickly. They go from throwing a spitball to Global Thermonuclear War.
Just try thinking about what you are doing. Are you hurting the game or helping it. Are you hurting other people or helping them.
Think about what you are doing before you create a thread such as this.
Think about what you are doing when you and another guy have decided to attack and try to emasculate each other with every thread they can, and then just don't do it. I don't care how educated you are, or pretend to be, you are still just stupid, because you do stupid things.
The game is real. The people that play it are real. Stop pretending that it and they are not real, and that it is OK to be a jerk, or a fool, or act stupid.