Author Topic: Recently Divorced like myself? Best website evar! (Read 2490 times)

Dnil · « **Reply #60 on:** January 28, 2004, 04:22:16 PM »

rip ya goof. I meant when my marriage was new I felt how you do now. After 11 years I didn't feel that way anymore.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #61 on:** January 28, 2004, 04:22:30 PM »

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Originally posted by miko2d
There is a huge shortage of girls in India and China. In India some states have 150 boys born for for 100 girls. China is expected to have 40 million extra marriageable males in a couple of decades.

In a few years the american women - who outnubmer men and are more active politically and tend to be liberal - will vote to relax immigration controls even further so they could import foreign husbands in place of americans who do not want them.

That conversion of america to sino-indian race will of course be financed by a huge tax imposed on single childless non-married american males.

Scary?

miko

Considering the male anatomy of the Chinese and Indians, white men have nothing to worry about, if you get my drift

rpm · « **Reply #62 on:** January 28, 2004, 04:39:45 PM »

I don't think American women would be happy at all with foreign husbands. Most foreign cultures are VERY male dominant.

hawker238 · « **Reply #63 on:** January 28, 2004, 05:40:22 PM »

Right on Rip.

midnight Target · « **Reply #64 on:** January 28, 2004, 05:44:27 PM »

Marriage had absolutely NO affect on my ex-wifes libido..... just ask anybody.

badumbum

Vulcan · « **Reply #65 on:** January 28, 2004, 07:00:10 PM »

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Originally posted by rpm371
I don't think American women would be happy at all with foreign husbands. Most foreign cultures are VERY male dominant.

Shows how much you know.

Another one of those myths like Asian women being subservient.

Asian women are actually very dominant. They're just not unrealistic shallow greedy *****es.

miko2d · « **Reply #66 on:** January 28, 2004, 07:46:39 PM »

Ripsnort: Considering the male anatomy of the Chinese and Indians, white men have nothing to worry about, if you get my drift

Have you read the site that is so praised here? It's main point that american women lose interest in having sex with their husbands the moment vows are uttered. So male anatomy does not really figure here.

rpm371: Most foreign cultures are VERY male dominant.

Their cultures are also very family-oriented and a man without a wife and children is not considered a complete man there. So they will adopt to the new ways.

Vulcan: Asian women are actually very dominant.

Not so much dominant as brought up to perform their traditional family roles while expecting men to perform theirs without mutual interference.

miko

ravells · « **Reply #67 on:** January 29, 2004, 05:03:50 AM »

Two of my ex-girlfriends were American - I didn't find them dominant, shallow or pushy in the least. In fact, if anything they were more feminine and receptive than many Asian and European women I know.

Although the site is fun, it is a generalisation about a stereotype not just of American women but of women everywhere.

Miko, I hate to say it, but I think you have a very romanticised view of Asian marriages.

Ravs

Ping · « **Reply #68 on:** January 29, 2004, 06:39:36 AM »

Note to self: Don't romanticize asian marriages.

Is it O K to Fantasize about asian marriages?

Vulcan · « **Reply #69 on:** January 29, 2004, 06:58:56 AM »

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Originally posted by miko2d

Not so much dominant as brought up to perform their traditional family roles while expecting men to perform theirs without mutual interference.

miko

Wrong. For example, its quite common for Asian women to control the finances, and in a business to have much more control than the men.

And don't even both arguing with me on this one. I got married in Phnom Penh by the head Buddhist Monk of Cambodia, I've had 4 asian girlfriends (excl the wife). My extended 'family' and friends are all either Cambodian, Chinese, Vietnamese, or Lao. And this covers a time period of 15 years.

(ping you may continue romantisizing asian marriages)

miko2d · « **Reply #70 on:** January 29, 2004, 08:09:49 AM »

ravells: Two of my ex-girlfriends were American - I didn't find them dominant, shallow or pushy in the least.

All of them are - why would they be girlfriends otherwise? Apparently something bad happens when girlfriends become wives...

Miko, I hate to say it, but I think you have a very romanticised view of Asian marriages.

I do not have first-hand experience of it but an opinion from the people I tend to trust. Anyway, considering those women to be properly programmed is hardly "romanticising" on my part.

Vulcan: Wrong. For example, its quite common for Asian women to control the finances, and in a business to have much more control than the men.
And don't even both arguing with me on this one.

Wrong!? Argue with you!? Your example is exactly what I ment by "brought up to perform their traditional family roles". The complete maganement of household and household finances is one of the traditional family roles a properly brought-up asian woman is expected to perform.
My wife is not an asian, so it took me several years to train her to take full control of the family finances.

A question I have been pondering for a while but could not spare time for detailed research. As far as I know the very concept of "romantic love" was an artificial creation of relatively recent Middle Ages or later - the "Age of Chivalry" or rather the time when that "age" was invented by travelling minstrels. Even after that it was extremely rare and did not spread among general population untill 19th century (increased women literacy, cheap book printing and spread of romantic novels?).

Before that in our western civilisation - which most trace from Ancient Greece - there was no concept of "love" between a man and a woman. At least as we understand it - romantic love.
They had attraction and lust but no "love".
And not like they did not romanticis. They romanticised all the time but only the friendship (between men), not love.

They were constantly discussing the "virtues of woman" but those virtues had very little with romantic concept but mostly with suitability to be a wife. Marriages were mostly arranged by experienced adults and as long as the woman's "virtues" corresponded to the advertised ones, a man had a good wife and both were happy.

I have not seen anything in other cultures - eastern, muslim, otehrs - that resembles the modern western concept of romantic love but much closer to the concepts of pre-romanticism.

I believe the major problem with american women is that they believe in the romantic love - which is natural, given our media, and when they face the reality (of it's non-existance) they cannot handle it or fail to realise it and blame the man for not keeping alive what never existed.
Asians and other cultures' women are just more realistic.

miko

lazs2 · « **Reply #71 on:** January 29, 2004, 08:22:49 AM »

regardless of if you are happily married or not...

I would advise that every married man have a cash stash that is about 10% of your yearly income. It should be in cash and there should be no hint that it exists.

When it all goes to hell you will be able to survive during the shock part (the first few months)... why add financial problems to your depression? If you remain happily married forever... well... It will be a nice surprise for your survivors.

lazs

Ripsnort · « **Reply #72 on:** January 29, 2004, 08:42:19 AM »

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Originally posted by lazs2
When it all goes to hell you will be able to survive during the shock part (the first few months)... why add financial problems to your depression? If you remain happily married forever... well... It will be a nice surprise for your survivors.

lazs

Ahh, ever the optimist...

lazs2 · « **Reply #73 on:** January 29, 2004, 08:52:33 AM »

just curious rip... do you buy "survivor" insurance for your house?

lazs

Ripsnort · « **Reply #74 on:** January 29, 2004, 09:04:58 AM »

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Originally posted by lazs2
just curious rip... do you buy "survivor" insurance for your house?

lazs

I'm not sure what that is, but if something happens to my wife or myself, the house is paid for. Should I worry considering she has a CCP and handles a weapon confidently?