Yea, actually it is lol... the last 3 or 4 people that asked me for help kept losing me off the merge... and it isn't like I do anything extraordinarily weird off the merge... usually just a standard immelman.
I know at least some of it has to be my fault, I used to have the idea that people did want to improve at A2A fighting (any style, be it energy or turnfighting.. as long as people are fighting, I'm happy). I've become somewhat dissillusioned of that idea over the past couple of years, as the preeminent form of "fighting" seems to revolve around making sure the group you are flying with is significantly bigger, higher, and faster than whatever group you expect to run into.
I think that may have something to do with the Hit N Run style of fighting that seems so prevelant when you run into someone flying solo. Typically they are in a fast plane (dora, la7, p51, typh), make one pass and run for the hills... they may not be running. They might just not have any idea where the hell you got off to while you were dodging their pass, I dunno.