Originally posted by Nash
On the days when I showed up for highschool and we got whisked into an auditorium to hear someone speak about this stuff.... it didn't mean a thing to me.
Mighta helped someone else though... but personally, I have my doubts about that.
I really do think that you are on a collision course with this stuff from miles and miles back...
By the time yer talkin' to highschool kids... it is just too late. We already knew better than those chumps.
That being said... There was stuff I learned in rehab that I could not BELIEVE didn't get taught in highschool.
Actually I think highschool is quite late.
Now Im not only talkin drugs but basicly all kinds of "social information" (sorry for bad wording, swedish after all). Somehow its belived that its first in highschool that kids can be talked to about "reality out there". Highschool is too late.
Also just informing isnt enough, the attitude has to be changed. During ones life one has to be "coached" (like the word better then educated) on attitude and not behaviour. Behaviour is the result of attitude. To change behaviour or to affect behaviour one has to coach on the attitude.
Coaching litteraly means "help to self help". When coaching someone you cant do things or change things for the person you coach. What you can do is influence the person to do things him/her self in a certain way.
If you coach on attitude you will see results in the persons (whom you coach) behaviour.
Attitude cant be changed overnight in highschool. Attitude has to be coached from birth by parents and then through school from first grade by teachers, guest teachers and all other adults around the kid. Then in adult life this coaching has to continue from managers, team leaders and what ever senior people you deal with.
The problem is that we today get "educated" in school and not coached. School afterall is not just a place where you learn hard facts, its also a place where you more then anything get prepared for life (or rather should be).
If you just educate and dont coach you will see alot of kids with the attitude "screw math it sucks", "screw drug propaganda Im above it", "screw everything no one understands me", ect, ect.
When it comes to work life the problem is the same. Managers know next to nothing about coaching and all they do is push their group to achive the results applied to the group by an higher manager. This imho is much of the reason to burnouts today. Instead of focusing on coaching the individual, managers push the group to a goal set by someone else.
The financial goal of a team at work ofcourse has to be achived, just like the education level of a class in school, but if you coach the individuals in the group with focus on attitude and not behaviour you will easily exceed the set results. Plus the individual will be in a much better condition, mentally, as his/hers individual needs get adressed.
With coaching on attitude in schools from early days you guys would make a huge difference. Unfortunatly it doesnt work that way today and that is why you say that listening to others about drugs did nothing for you.
But if you ever get a change to talk to kids about drugs, imho you should take it. When/If you get this remember you cant do much about behaviour of the kids but you can help change the attitude, focus on that.
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