Author Topic: Reason I hav'nt been on lately (Read 1372 times)

Flit · « **on:** October 19, 2006, 12:01:35 PM »

Hi all
I just thought I'd post the reason why I hav'nt been playing much lately.
My wife came back from her trip to Italy about three weeks ago, and blindsided me with the announcement that she no longer loved me and wanted to separate.
Needless to say, I am devastated.
I had no idea at all that she had been feeling this way for quite a while, and had been trying to keep our marriage together for 3 years.
If I had known, I would have made much more of an effort much sooner.
I hope and pray that we can work this out, as I love her more then anything else in this world.
At least we are communicating , probably for first time in 4 years, and I like to think she is wavering a bit. She wants to do a trial separation, and see how she feels in a couple months.
The worse part is the fact that even now, we get along great. We don't argue, snuggle, hold hands, sleep together, and seem to have everything we need to succeed except she says there's no longer any "chemistry" between us.
If nothing else, we have spent more time doing stuff together in the past 3 weeks then we have in the past 3 years, which is my fault.
I have been sitting at home on the 'puter since we got married, trying to save money toward my retirement, while she has wanted to travel and do other things.
I still have hope, and would ask eveyone to please pray for the successful resumption of what I thought was the perfect marrige.

Peace
Flit

lasersailor184 · « **Reply #1 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:08:13 PM »

She hasn't loved you in 3 years, and got back from italy?

What do you think she was doing in italy?

Hornet33 · « **Reply #2 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:08:28 PM »

I feel your pain brother. I've been going through the same thing since January. It sucks but I hope yours works out better than mine has to this point.

Just keep your chin up.

Hornet33 · « **Reply #3 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:11:19 PM »

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Originally posted by lasersailor184
She hasn't loved you in 3 years, and got back from italy?

What do you think she was doing in italy?

Damn Laser....give the guy a break. He's got enough on his mind without something like that. Kinda out of line don't ya think?

indy007 · « **Reply #4 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:19:15 PM »

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Originally posted by Hornet33
Damn Laser....give the guy a break. He's got enough on his mind without something like that. Kinda out of line don't ya think?

Unfortunately it's a valid statement. Love hurts, and dancing around issues like that can only make it worse imho.

For Flit though, if you don't mind, why did you not go with her?

BigGun · « **Reply #5 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:40:27 PM »

I think he all ready said it, he has been home playing on computer since married while she has wanted to travel and do other things.

Viking · « **Reply #6 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:43:30 PM »

Bummer. Hope it works out for you bro

midnight Target · « **Reply #7 on:** October 19, 2006, 12:47:22 PM »

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Originally posted by Hornet33
Damn Laser....give the guy a break. He's got enough on his mind without something like that. Kinda out of line don't ya think?

Really... how dare you post something unsupportive or even serious!

There aren't enough rollyeyes in the world for this one.

Dude... If she has been gone and wants a "trial separation" she has someone in the bullpen already. Wake up and smell the attorney fees.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #8 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:08:14 PM »

Trial separation means its a done deal IMO. I'd stay friends, and move along. There are a ton of fish in the sea...

Bodhi · « **Reply #9 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:16:54 PM »

Best of luck to yas Flit.

Do the smart thing though, and go talk to an attorney and protect as much of your assets as possible.

SunKing · « **Reply #10 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:21:34 PM »

Just another reason never to get married this day and age.

JB88 · « **Reply #11 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:23:55 PM »

best of luck sir.

Yeager · « **Reply #12 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:24:28 PM »

edited to reflect a more sensitive yet reticent fellow.

Nightshift82 · « **Reply #13 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:26:39 PM »

Best of luck

Flit · « **Reply #14 on:** October 19, 2006, 01:38:22 PM »

Jeez fella's-
1- she went to Italy with her mother
2- I did'nt because I was in the middle of moving my business, plus I really had no desire to go. If I had known it would make a difference, I would have gone in a heartbeat.
3- even if I did go, I have a feeling she would not have enjoyed her trip as much with me along anyway.
4- I know for a fact there is no one else.
5- She's 31, I'm 45- can you say Mid-life Crisis of enormous proportions ?
6- If you don't have anything supportive to say, stay the **** out of my thread. This might not seem like anything to you, but it means a hell of a lot to me
For the rest of you- Thanks for your thought's and prayers
Peace
Flit