"Note I don't say "dogfighting skills", because to me the guy who picks his engagements wisely is a much "better" player than someone who can outfly him 1v1 but dies every sortie. "
To be honest, I am one of those people that goes out and dies alot. But thats for the MA. I save the flying safe stuff for events. I get bored being careful all the time. I think most people would rather come across the "better" players, than the latter. If you fight people and find you die regularly to them, except when they are ganged or picked, it doesnt neccessarily make you a better player.
And quite frankly, the careful player really lacks the aggressive behavior that is rewarded in here. Without learning from dying in all the different situations that arise, the player will never truly be all that great.
My uncle was a CV pilot in the Navy back in the 60s. He started playing some air sim games and I'd watch how he went about it. He flew as if his life depended on it. It retarded his gameplay. In real life I'd want him flying the plane for me, but in a video game, he sucked.