Originally posted by Yeager
She said her son died for nothing. Her son died serving our country and that says it all for me. He died in service of every american, and there is a an infinite amount of value in that, at least in my reasoning.
Have you lost a son?
If not, you have no clue what you are talking about. Trust me on this one. I didn't lose mine in combat, but until you've dealt with that kind of loss, you can't know what it's like.
It changes your perspective on everything and I mean everything. What holds value and what doesn't comes into very sharp focus.
I'd suggest that on some level, she was desperate in her grief to find some meaning or understanding to her son's death, and in the end discovered it isn't there and that the pain and the grief isn't going to go away. He didn't come back despite her efforts
Now she's stuck with the hard truth and it sucks cause despite everything you try, it's there every morning when you wake up and every night when you go to bed.
I can't condemn her for trying to find some peace with it regardless of the politics. She lost the far tougher battle she was fighting.
Just an after thought about one of the Dads that is part of the Compassionate friends group my wife and I belong to. (Compassionate Friends is a group for parents who've lost kids) He's career military and his 20 year old son died in a car wreck on the way to being deployed to Iraq. His son died two days after my 21 year old son and 15 year old daughter were killed in a car wreck, 21 months ago now.
part of his military time was spent leading an honor guard for military funerals. He very much bought into the pomp and circumstance of it and the 'sacrifice'. This was until he was sitting there polishing his son's brass for the funeral. It no longer meant a thing. All he cared about was that his boy was never coming home. That hasn't changed for him. It's hard seeing this strong, proud man, so crushed by what he's lost.